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  • fredvoorhies
    fredvoorhies Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-18 03:31:14

    Would you move to another country for good?

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 3 cheers 2018-02-18 04:17:49

      @fredvoorhies I did but it turned out it was not for good. I lasted almost 4 years. I moved to marry someone who lived in another country. I was young and didn't really understand what was best for my future at the time. No regrets though. If the current government of my country continues to be the way it is now, I may move to another country for good.

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    • collectorofcats
      collectorofcats Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-18 15:28:37

      @fredvoorhies I don’t think so unless it would be to Canada but unlike the USA, they actually inforce their immigration laws including employment and I’d likely get deported if I just showed up.

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 4 cheers 2018-02-18 16:18:30

      @fredvoorhies For good is a strong term, but I have, and currently am, living in a different country than my birthcountry. I don't really have much thoughts about how long I stay somewhere, if it doesn't feel good anymore I will leave, maybe I'll stay forever, or maybe I'll leave next week, who knows. Circumstances change, currently living in country #4 and moving to #5 soon.

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    • khryssizzle
      khryssizzle Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-19 15:02:15

      @fredvoorhies I don't think I would for good. I would rather spend each year living in a different country. But if I had to pick one country to spend the rest of my life in, it would be Japan.

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  • khryssizzle
    khryssizzle Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-15 15:15:38

    So, I'm sitting at a coffee shop waiting to meet a fellow 43T person. If you met someone from here in real life what would you want to talk about or ask that person?

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  • wyverndust
    wyverndust Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-15 04:20:23

    would anyone like to help my friend with her survey? She is planning to write a book, and she asked that we should share this survey so she can gather some answers from as many people as possible. Thank you so much for your help! https://survey.sogosurvey.com/r/acO3TU

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-02-12 13:48:42

    Jeepers Creepers, Jeeze Louise, and for Gods sake......

    So, now I have an "escort" from Andheri following me? (And 39 others...) This takes spamming and solicitation, pun intended, to even greater lows.

    And where is the report button? I can't even find it now......

    I don't care if she wants to sell her body along with her soul, that's her choice. Maybe her only one for all I know, but I'd rather she do it somewhere else. Unless she's actually going to work on real goals or interact in a positive way, which I doubt.

    But then, she does have a goal to find fruit, so maybe?

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-12 14:02:17

      @beequeen The only place I see to report is the one goal that they have that has any entries. Done.
      If you read their entries Is the button still missing on your side?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2018-02-12 14:07:22

      @beequeen Just one? Nah, kidding. But if you go to "Explore" and look at the newest goals there are so many escort ones. Also, if you need a plumber in Kent, I know someone...

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-15 14:19:39

        @rainbowssparks

        Ha ha! I will say she's very pretty. Maybe she's into online sexual shenanigans as well......I could use a little more play in my otherwise currently 60% celibate lifestyle. (Kiddin', mostly.)

        Alas, I did report her. Sorry pretty Andheri lady...............I felt a twinge of guilt. What if she's supporting a family? What if she's a sex slave and her pimp is a total tool who is making her do this? I say we go to Andheri, go all ninja on his ass, and liberate her! Maybe this is just my overactive albeit delightfully inspiring imagination at work. Maybe she's also a master manipulator who is out to milk unsuspecting dupes out of their whole $23.83 savings account....

        Oh and yes, I could use a good plumber! Will he travel? LOL

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 2 cheers 2018-02-12 17:21:07

      @beequeen also, if you go to their profile page and scroll to the bottom of their profile sidebar, below the About Me area, there is a discreet "...". Click this and it gives you the option to report the user. I know on the mobile version of the site you can also report websites posted in a profile using a similar link.

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  • khryssizzle
    khryssizzle Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-10 22:25:28

    Would you rather be famous when you are alive and forgotten when you die or unknown when you are alive but famous after you die?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-10 22:48:33

      @khryssizzle Unknown and famous after I die. I'm actually quite shy and introverted and often have days where I just don't want to meet people. I don't feel like interacting and it would be really making me nervous if people went up to me in the supermarket, or wherever, because I'd be famous and they want a photo or anything.

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    • beequeen
      beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-02-12 17:26:56

      @khryssizzle I would rather not be famous at all. I have a sibling who has achieved a modicum of fame regionally and I don't even like it when I am with him and fans come out of the woodwork. It's unnerving, even though his fans are pleasant. He is very social and doesn't mind this unless his kids are with him, then he wants to protect them from the more ardent fans. I am very private. I'd be that famous person living in a bubble, with four bodyguards, and I'd never remove my shades. LOL

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-15 04:14:16

      @khryssizzle I sincerely hope that I am not aware of my fame after my demise. I can't imagine what it would be like to be really famous. Does not seem enjoyable to me. I avoid places where I think I might run into people from my past, so I don't want to be noticed at all. I watched the videos of the Spice Girls trying to arrive at a meeting and leaving the meeting and being mobbed by papparazi. Awful.

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  • ExplorerSoul
    ExplorerSoul 1 cheers 2018-02-10 22:23:17

    Are you good at apologizing?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-10 22:50:07

      @ExplorerSoul If I feel I need to apologize, I will and I will own up to my msitakes. If somebody feels I owe them an apology, but I disagree with that, I am not so good at it. I mean, sometimes it would make a situation better to apologize, but I don't want to apologize if I don't mean it.

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      • ExplorerSoul
        ExplorerSoul 1 cheers 2018-02-18 18:25:40

        @rainbowssparks I do think it should be sincere.

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        • rainbowssparks
          rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-18 20:37:03

          @ExplorerSoul Me too, I don't want to apologize if I don't mean it. Some people can throw a scene about not apologizing over something small though (to them it might not be small, but it clearly is a disagreement), so it sometimes is easier to give in. Not a fan of those situations, and I than do say sorry, and everything seems to be cleared. Find that so weird, I think it is more about getting what they want than the actual apology.

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    • morningsun
      morningsun 2 cheers 2018-02-11 18:53:07

      @ExplorerSoul No, not when it really counts - I'm working on it though

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    • taraeve
      taraeve 2 cheers 2018-02-12 06:38:45

      @morningsun Yes, but it starts to mean less after a while...

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-15 04:15:20

      @ExplorerSoul no I tend to over do it and it gets awkward. I am sincere, but too fervent in my apologies. One of my former bosses warned me to tone it down. I even did it again today and felt so embarrassed.

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      • ExplorerSoul
        ExplorerSoul 0 cheers 2018-02-18 18:26:51

        @wyverndust Why do you think you do it so much?

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        • wyverndust
          wyverndust Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-19 03:16:59

          @ExplorerSoul because I have a lot of remorse for things that are unforgivable from my past

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          • ExplorerSoul
            ExplorerSoul 0 cheers 2018-02-19 04:23:12

            @wyverndust I hope you can forgive yourself.

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            • wyverndust
              wyverndust Doing 0 cheers 2018-02-19 06:07:37

              @ExplorerSoul me too. It's been a lifelong struggle for almost 50 years. I remember when my sister phoned me in tears saying she forgave me and I had no clue what I needed forgiveness from her for. I think I didn't get empathy until my 30s and now I have super scary debilitating empathy. I hate remembering things that I cannot change, and I cannot accept them yet. It's getting to the point where I can't listen to music on the radio because almost every song reminds me of someone that I hurt or something wrong that I did that makes me cringe so much. I will find a way to move on eventually. The good thing is, now I stand up for people if I see anyone being mistreated. I don't care who is doing it, I will say something in a quiet respectful way to try to be a good example. I am proud of this change. Still I don't forgive myself and may never fully atone for all I have done. In my late 20's some awful person told me that I was worse than Hitler and that stung so bad. It wasn't true of course but that was the worst insult I could imagine and I guess that person really believed I was that bad. I overcompensate, but I am not the same as I was.

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    • hercat66
      hercat66 1 cheers 2018-02-18 19:22:54

      @ExplorerSoul I'm Canadian of course I am. Sometimes I think apologizing is our national pass time :-)

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-07 19:14:42

    The man has birthday on sunday and he loves donuts. Now, I want to make him donuts, but I also like it to be a surprise. So, how do I go about this? He will be home in the weekend and making them takes too long to send him out for something. I could make them on friday, but I doubt they are still nice on sunday. So any advice? Getting up before him would not work well as he is not a long sleeper anyway. Maybe I should just give up on the surprise part?

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 0 cheers 2018-02-07 20:01:18

      @rainbowssparks Could you just ask him not to go in the kitchen?

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-07 20:04:06

        @jadedforever We live in a mobile home, so it is an open kitchen and the walls are so filmsy that he will hear I'm baking something even from the other side of the house. I can do it and will if nothing else will come up, but he definitely knows he is going to get some cake of some form.

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    • morningsun
      morningsun 1 cheers 2018-02-07 22:26:49

      @rainbowssparks Could you go visit a friend or family and borrow their kitchen??

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-07 23:19:31

        @morningsun Have been thinking about that too, but I don't go somewhere for hours at the time, so it would be a bit strange. I moved here for him and don't have friends yet. I am thinking of encouraging him to go do some projects at the workspace on saturday, so that might take him some time. Not sure if he feels like doing it though.

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    • sabryn
      sabryn 2 cheers 2018-02-08 16:55:11

      @rainbowssparks Could you just ban him from the kitchen while you make them? The fact that there is a surprise would be ruined, but he wouldn't necessarily know what the surprise was until you were ready.

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-08 16:59:56

        @sabryn Yes, that seems the most viable option if he doesn't want to leave on saturday. I do think he would guess about the donuts, as he knows that I know how much he loves them, but still the fact that they'd be made is a surprise too. He will just have to stop drooling during the baking time haha.

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      • Airos
        Airos Done 1 cheers 2018-02-10 03:19:51

        @rainbowssparks sabryn's plan worked for me back when I was married. I did a bathroom renovation by banning my wife from the bathroom for the day. So she knew the basics but not the detail. I ended it with a bubble bath, candles and wine on ice. She was happy.

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        • rainbowssparks
          rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2018-02-10 18:09:32

          @Airos Seems it will be like that as he doesn't feel like leaving the house today. He does seem to be excited and wishing that the gift his sister sent him is donuts. He also wanted to bake a cake himself today and invite people over, but I somehow managed to get him off that idea by inviting them the weekend after. Lets see how it goes tomorrow.

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    • ExplorerSoul
      ExplorerSoul 2 cheers 2018-02-10 21:48:36

      @rainbowssparks I know this isn't helpful advice, but someone on Facebook made this recently, and it made me think of your post.

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-10 22:09:25

        @ExplorerSoul Ooooo, love that! Beyond my capabilities, but it looks so beautiful and yummy!

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 3 cheers 2018-02-11 21:26:51

        So he didn't want to leave the house on saturday, so I had to shoo him out of the kitchen. He knew something was going on, but later on he told me he didn't know what. Donuts had crossed his mind, but we didn't have enough oil in the house to make it, so he thought that was not possible. Not one second had he thought that I might have gone shopping while he was at work (and he knew I was going to town on friday, I told him), so that was good.

        I did allow him in the kitchen after I made the dough and hid it in a cupboard to make it rise. So he could smell the yeast and it left him clueless. It all went fine and he stayed away, until I started frying the donuts and turned on the hood above the stove. The sound is really loud and he came out and asked 'What are you doing?' So I got grumpy and told him to stay away. I was just preparing the frosting around that time and apparently that got him off the donut track even more, since he thought I was making cream or something in a bowl. He didn't see the pan on the stove apparently and it also didn't smell like typical frying. I thought he had seen everything and thought the surprise was ruined, but it turned out quite well. I blindfolded him and lead him back to the kitchen and he was really happy. So, in the end it worked out fine! Donuts also taste nice.

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2018-02-07 18:39:37

    Ok, having a bit of question diarrhea... How many goals can you focus on at the same time?

    I really wonder this, because some people have many and for me when I focus on one goal I tend to loose focus on another. I really think I can't focus on more than 1 or 2 at a time. So most of my goals are stalling in the list waiting to be picked up rather than actively worked on all the time.

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    • sabryn
      sabryn 2 cheers 2018-02-08 16:53:31

      @rainbowssparks Depends on the goals. Right now I am focusing a lot on how I eat, so I'm able to work on the dinner menu goal and the lunch goal and the sugar goal because they're all intertwined. I was doing well with the exercise one, too, until my endo flared up. But many of my goals are just sitting there as placeholders, until I have a free spot in my attention span. I'm certainly not focusing on all of them at once. :)

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-08 17:04:31

        @sabryn You are right, if they intertwine working on multiple goals becomes easier and - speaking for myself - also more rewarding somehow. I would sit and think like, oh but I worked on this goal today, and this, and this.... But I also feel that when I add fun goals they tend to lead my attention and focus away from the bigger and ultimately more rewarding goals. On the other hand, maybe it is good for the feeling of achievement and in the long run keeps me more focussed altogether? Orrrr... maybe I'm just thinking too much about it all. πŸ˜‚

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2018-02-07 18:37:22

    Now we are Drimsa, can we have more than 43 goals? Anybody have tried?

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  • rainbowssparks
    rainbowssparks 5 cheers 2018-02-07 16:08:53

    Wouldn't it be great to have a 43T meeting?

    I guess that is my question. 😂 I mean, I'd get anxious and chicken out, next to the logistic problems, but I still like the thought of awesome people meeting up.

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    • morningsun
      morningsun 1 cheers 2018-02-07 16:20:54

      @rainbowssparks Could be fun :)

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    • sabryn
      sabryn 1 cheers 2018-02-07 16:41:55

      @rainbowssparks There used to be meet-ups, back in the day. I was always too poor to attend them, but I still think it'd be cool. (Though like you, I'd likely chicken out. :D)

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 0 cheers 2018-02-07 16:49:14

        @sabryn Yeah, I heard about that, I think I somehow always kind of 'existed' next to the core members, eventhough I had been active for at least some time on the old site. So I missed events like that, but I'm also honest and say that the anonimity of the site is one of the attractions and a meeting might take it away. So basically I don't know the answer to my own question haha.

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        • sabryn
          sabryn 2 cheers 2018-02-07 16:59:24

          @rainbowssparks I was always kind of on the periphery on the old site. I saw some of the meetup goals because people I followed were on them, but none of the meetups I saw were within a day's drive of me anyway. I know there were closer ones, but I wasn't really involved in those "circles" and thus didn't hear about them until after the fact. Not that I'd necessarily have attended if I'd known in advance.

          I've only met one person from 43t in person, and that was because she was coming to this area anyway to visit family. I get intimidated enough in one-on-one meetings like that - in a bigger gathering with several people I'd only talked to online, I'd probably melt down. LOL

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    • runwim
      runwim 3 cheers 2018-02-07 19:42:03

      @rainbowssparks yes definitely! Apart from the logistics aspect of course. I have met about 10 people of the old 43T though (which was really cool), but in separate meetups rather than one big gathering. That said, you're most welcome to visit if/when you're in the area! :)

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-09 20:07:16

        @runwim Quite a lot! I guess the old site was bigger and there were more people living close by. Don't think I'll be around any time soon, but thanks for the invitation.

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      • ExplorerSoul
        ExplorerSoul 1 cheers 2018-02-10 23:22:33

        @runwim How was the experience meeting those members in person? Was it surprising in any way?

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        • runwim
          runwim 3 cheers 2018-02-11 13:31:49

          @ExplorerSoul Each time was a cool experience. And surprising in different ways too. As people are often quite open on 43T, you may know a surprising lot of the person you're meeting in real life for the first time (and vice versa). And J was much shorter than I thought (and I was much taller than she thought). Meeting a fellow 43Ter in real life is definitely something I'd recommend!

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-07 19:44:14

      @rainbowssparks I was going to go to a meet-up thing for 43Things before. I chickened out & didn't go for more than one reason.
      I probably still would have told people just my screen name at least at the beginning. &#xsmile;
      I like/prefer being anonymous.

      Edit.
      I forgot I actually briefly met 2 people from 43things before.
      At some other get together thing.More or less just introduced.

      Oops.

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    • khryssizzle
      khryssizzle Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-08 17:02:22

      @rainbowssparks I am actually meeting a local 43T person next Thursday at a coffee shop. Her neighborhood is about 5 minutes away from mine. I'm really nervous, but I promised myself that I would make the effort tointeract with people on 43T since I regret not doing it last time it was around. Can't get more interactive than actually meeting in person πŸ˜…

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      • rainbowssparks
        rainbowssparks 1 cheers 2018-02-08 19:08:47

        @khryssizzle Awesome! Understand the nervousness, I'd pee my pants shortly before for sure. But yeah, she lives 5 minutes away, there almost is no excuse not to meet haha. And who knows you might hit it off and gain a brandnew friendship. Have fun!

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