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02/06/2017
  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-04-09 15:31:09



    1. Aleph.
      The first letter of the Hebrew and the Phoenician alphabets.



    2. Alphabet.
      From the Greek alphabetos and the first two letters in the Phoenician and Hebrew alphabet, aleph (alef) and bet.


    3. Abecedaria, Abecedary, Abecedarium.
      An abecedarium (or abecedary) is an inscription consisting of the letters of an alphabet, almost always listed in order. Typically, abecedaria (or abecedaries) are practice exercises. An alphabet book, basically.


    I like the sounds of all of those words, and being a "word nerd" I also like what the words mean or represent.

    I'd like to be an omniglot.

    https://www.omniglot.com/

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-03-02 21:28:46

    Mensch

    I grew up around Jewish folk, beloveds who married into our family (and thus became family) and thru college worked in the only kosher deli within a 350 mile radius. I heard both Yiddish & Hebrew spoken frequently and picked up a few words and phrases here and there. Among my favorite words is the word mensch. Not the way it sounds, it is not a particularly pretty sounding word when spoken, but its meaning is beautiful. It denotes a person of quality; someone with integrity and honor, compassion and kindness, humility and honesty. I have had the good fortune to know a few, Jewish and otherwise. It's not a term I assign to another cavalierly. When I do, its well deserved honorific.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2018-03-02 20:19:01

    NOCTILUCENT

    It means "night shining" in Latin. 🙂 It refers to the luminescence of particular clouds in a noctural sky. Gorgeous word to go along with a gorgeous observance.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2018-02-27 16:56:31

    I love the word

    ASTONISH

    It feels....wide eyed...optimistic, sensual.

    It feels like a floor length velvet cape with constellations swirling on it.

    Sumpn' like this pic, only black velvet.

    Or it feels like a really nice french kiss. Think of the nicest one you've ever had. Yeah, that. &#xsmile;

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2017-10-04 20:04:42

    prox·i·mal

    ˈpräksəməl; adjective

    ANATOMY

    "Situated nearer to the center of the body or the point of attachment."

    GEOLOGY

    "Relating to or denoting an area close to a center of a geological process such as sedimentation or volcanism."

    I like the way most words with an "x" in them sound.

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Celebrate ART 3 people are doing this
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09/03/2017
  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-04-19 20:02:39

    Yippee!!!!!!! Woohoo!!!

    I LOVE this man. I have been doing similar things in the wild, in nature, since I was a kid. Rearranging things, curating. Not because I didn't already love the way things looked or out of any inclination to improve what was already perfect, but because I thought of it as play, as a child, then it morphed into elaborate mandalas on beaches, leaf labyrinths, moss furniture. (I was 6 or 7 when I created this elaborately "furnished" realm deep in the woods behind our home. When my parents divorced I didn't mind leaving my father behind but I sure missed the kingdom I'd created and recreated each season in those woods.....) When I discovered Andy Goldsworthy it was like discovering someone else who liked to play in and with nature the same way I did/do (still, when I have the chance).

    There's a new film about him! I just heard about it today. Yippee!!!!

    http://www.leaningintothewind.com/

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQYGbfVfpm0

    http://www.leaningintothewind.com/
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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2017-11-15 21:25:03

    White peacock feathers. They're glorious. I think I was a burlesque dancer in another life. (My Great Grandma shook her booty up and down the coast. Maybe its in the blood? Hee.)

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-11-13 16:02:45

    I found this just now. I love all the color and sensuality of it.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-11-03 17:33:36

    I just started using a Midori Traveler's Journal, and I LOVE it. It's multi-purpose; great for when I don't want to carry my larger journals around with me. (I transfer the content later, to wherever it needs to go, whether personal journal, art project journal, work calendar etc.)

    Not my photo, but I liked the aesthetic.

    http://www.travelers-company.com/

    http://www.ihanna.nu/blog/2017/04/midori-travelers-notebook-system/

    It is it's own work of art this journal system, in form and function. It satisfies my notebook junkie aesthetic as well as my penchant for organization.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-10-31 20:26:10

    And lastly, Miss G. Designs, number 5. Coz it's All Hallows Eve, y'all. BOO!!

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-04-03 17:52:22

    The Confessional Box is Open; Bee Ponderworthy, at your service.

    This is a spam alert. This is an attempt at solicitation.

    The Ponderworthy Agency is your full service confessional; bring all your confessions,revelations and epiphanies to us (employing the royal we here) and for a nominal fee to be paid in Gold Bullion we will listen without interruption, offer advice only if required, and then forget we ever heard anything. Also proficient at safe cracking clairaudience and vanishing (mine or yours).

    Apropos of the above foray/digression into the Realm of Silly, I am the kind of person others open up, to whom they will tell or confess anything and everything.

    It happened again on my walk home last night. A lot of the time such experiences come at me out of the blue. I ran into someone, walking in the same direction, and the next thing I know I am hearing something very intimate about her body. Do I have or have I ever had the same problems, she was asking. Uh, well, er, no. I listened patiently, compassionately, then we parted. I had no advice to offer. "Sorry, " I said and "I do hope you find a solution."

    No mater how often it happens, I always marvel that people open up to me like they do. Especially as I am not prone to respond in kind. I am the opposite of that. I play my cards very close to the vest, keep my own counsel. (I am trying to be less stoic, but it's a challenge.....I am just not prone to that kind of behavior naturally, it takes work, effort.)

    I am a good listener, but I think it is more than that. People trust me for some reason. Not saying they shouldn't, I can keep a confidence. I live by the philosophy that if it isn't my news to tell I am not going to tell it. I do wonder what it is though, that makes even strangers open up to me thus, not just people I know or with whom I may have a passing acquaintance.

    Just pondering, here. Because it is ponderworthy. (Just made that up, ponderworthy.)

    Go ahead, tell me something......................the Confessional is open. Line forms to the right. Please close the red curtain after you step in.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2018-02-28 14:33:59
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    • morningsun
      morningsun 1 cheers 2018-02-28 14:42:30

      @beequeen Yes, I think going on dates with other men is a good idea - you might meet someone even greater :)

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-28 16:12:30
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    • wordsncolor
      wordsncolor 3 cheers 2018-02-28 16:06:52

      @beequeen I agree going on dates with other men is a good idea. Ideally, meeting them on terms you share a mutual passion(interest you can share), like for me it might be discussing philosophy, making art together, or playing by the beach. Not said in a judge-y voice, but something to keep in mind is someone who is willing to cheat with you, or even leave their present dissatisfaction for something 'more satisfying' with you, is also highly likely to repeat that pattern of pleasure seeking to avoid their own personal responsibility/accountability/growth where it is most uncomfortable and thus, most needed. In other words; inevitable stressful/stagnating/disappointing BS for you lol

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-28 16:48:24
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        • wordsncolor
          wordsncolor 2 cheers 2018-02-28 17:56:19

          @beequeen Oh.. I wasn't talking about monogamy as the end all be all. (Though I do agree with you that if that's the terms they entered the relationship then it does draw where the lines are, unless they have that 'talk', and talk and talk and talk, becuse healthy poly involves a lot of communication haha) My sentiments are more about authenticity, integrity, the things humans are prone to do to avoid/distract themselves from uncomfortable things they don't want to deal with. (If the wife's sex drive has evaporated there's very likely something systemic going on she's/they're not really dealing with. Communicating with your partner you want more sex isn't the same as figuring out together why she's not feel'n it ) I've seen the same thing I described in essence happen time and time again in poly dynamics too. It just looks a little different.

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          • beequeen
            beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-03-01 15:31:14
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            • wordsncolor
              wordsncolor 1 cheers 2018-03-01 16:24:25

              @beequeen I feel ya. A happy, passionate sex life is a fundamental for me as well to a satisfying relationship.

              It's unfortunate because ironically a common side effect of depression medication, even birth control, can be a decreased libido. I feel like... anymore input I might have about their difficulties treads into awkward territory,
              (said in a joking voice) "Hey.. if you ever find yourself in a friendly conversation with the married guy you're struggling with feelings of being attracted to about his sex life with his wife, suggest ABCD. It may help them" haha 😂😂😂

              Wishing you the best though. It's a tough spot to be in. Props to you for turning inward to deal with it.

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              • beequeen
                beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-03-01 17:20:54

                @wordsncolor

                Thank you.

                I have avoided those kinds of conversations with him, because if polyamory is ever brought up I want it to be their decision, their suggestion, not mine. I only have that conversation in my fantasies, and it always works out to my advantage. Ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!

                I am avoiding him altogether now, have been for some time. (Cordial, of course, but not engaging...) It's for the best.

                This too shall pass. LOL

                It's been a huge step for me to post about it. I can't believe I haven't deleted the whole thread yet. I probably will at some point. LOL

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    • aenea
      aenea 2 cheers 2018-02-28 16:22:04

      @beequeen damned chemistry screws up everything - you have my sympathies.

      yes, there's something to be said for accepting more date offers and broadening your horizons. But.

      I was in a similar situation. Guy was not married nor even officially dating anyone, so he said and so the mostly-likely-she said (I know because I asked her before even letting myself go there). Guy and I enjoy much fun and suddenly I start getting pilloried and socially ostracized for messing with guy who supposedly belongs to said girl. So I start distancing myself and dating other people in hopes of forgetting guy. Guy is not easily forgotten and thoughts of him interfere with me establishing new relationships. I.e. I found myself thinking about him while kissing someone else.

      So in my case I found it helpful to both cut him off and resolve myself to some alone time. Make peace with not being with him before looking for love elsewhere. If that makes sense.

      It worked for me to some extent. I still long for him but know it's better to stay away and I have since been able to find fulfillment, allbeit on different terms or of a different variety, elsewhere. It wasn't until I gave up on dating and embraced being alone that I met my current spouse. Relationships are unique and there seems no point in constantly making comparisons. I try now to just focus on enjoying what I have for what it is (slow burn) and not scrutinizing it for how it is different. New chapters can be fabulous if you give them half a chance.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-02-28 16:55:35
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        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-03-01 15:13:55
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        • aenea
          aenea 1 cheers 2018-03-01 16:36:25

          @beequeen about seven for me too.

          Funny you should mention wishing he lived elsewhere. The guy I was involved with lived here for the longest time and still wanted to keep in touch, so I'd get periodic texts and emails on his whereabouts and goingsions. A few years ago he lost his job when the university downsized, and the contact increased. I tried to give helpful advice while keeping my distance and four times he excitedly told me he'd landed something in a far off place. Every time I was flooded with relief, but also sadness. And every time it fell through. Until this spring. It appears permanent this time. And I really hope that's the end of it. He begged me to meet up in person one last time before he left but I declined.

          Good luck on your journey. I hope it gets easier for you.

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          • beequeen
            beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-03-01 17:22:24
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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2018-01-30 17:52:57

    GOOD NEWS!!!!! &#xsmile; (Six sources of POSITIVE news! See link.)

    I dunno 'bout ye, but I am tired of the glut of negative news. Even from sources I have always trusted and admired for their coverage. It's all so much doom and gloom according to most news sources. Oh, they might throw a human interest piece or a feel good piece in between Trumpisms and general or specific world chaos, but by and large it feels as if their main objective is who can report the worst shit first. And then who can repeat it the most, ad infinitum, ad nauseum. Shame on them!

    Well, I am not having any more of that. My protest is coming in the form of seeking out what is good, positive, life affirming, inspiring!

    Joy and wonder are more natural states of being for people than fear and despair.

    To that end, I challenge ye: EXPLORE! See link.

    https://humaneeducation.org/blog/2017/6-sources-positive-news/

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-02-12 13:48:42

    Jeepers Creepers, Jeeze Louise, and for Gods sake......

    So, now I have an "escort" from Andheri following me? (And 39 others...) This takes spamming and solicitation, pun intended, to even greater lows.

    And where is the report button? I can't even find it now......

    I don't care if she wants to sell her body along with her soul, that's her choice. Maybe her only one for all I know, but I'd rather she do it somewhere else. Unless she's actually going to work on real goals or interact in a positive way, which I doubt.

    But then, she does have a goal to find fruit, so maybe?

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    • jadedforever
      jadedforever Doing 2 cheers 2018-02-12 14:02:17

      @beequeen The only place I see to report is the one goal that they have that has any entries. Done.
      If you read their entries Is the button still missing on your side?

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2018-02-12 14:07:22

      @beequeen Just one? Nah, kidding. But if you go to "Explore" and look at the newest goals there are so many escort ones. Also, if you need a plumber in Kent, I know someone...

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-02-15 14:19:39

        @rainbowssparks

        Ha ha! I will say she's very pretty. Maybe she's into online sexual shenanigans as well......I could use a little more play in my otherwise currently 60% celibate lifestyle. (Kiddin', mostly.)

        Alas, I did report her. Sorry pretty Andheri lady...............I felt a twinge of guilt. What if she's supporting a family? What if she's a sex slave and her pimp is a total tool who is making her do this? I say we go to Andheri, go all ninja on his ass, and liberate her! Maybe this is just my overactive albeit delightfully inspiring imagination at work. Maybe she's also a master manipulator who is out to milk unsuspecting dupes out of their whole $23.83 savings account....

        Oh and yes, I could use a good plumber! Will he travel? LOL

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 2 cheers 2018-02-12 17:21:07

      @beequeen also, if you go to their profile page and scroll to the bottom of their profile sidebar, below the About Me area, there is a discreet "...". Click this and it gives you the option to report the user. I know on the mobile version of the site you can also report websites posted in a profile using a similar link.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 10 cheers 2018-01-11 22:15:16

    Just randomly wanted to wish YOU ALL a lovely weekend!

    Made a snow angel recently?

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    • rosewilder
      rosewilder Doing 4 cheers 2018-01-12 01:41:50

      @beequeen I did! It was cooooold. But fun!

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    • donna
      donna 5 cheers 2018-01-13 22:20:36

      @beequeen Lovely weekend back at you. And that is a good snow angel in the photo. Is it a photo that you took?

      No, I haven't made a snow angel recently. I cannot remember the last time I did. Sounds too cold right now.

      The most memorable thing I did with snow is back when I was a teenager. I went to the big open field near my house that had a foot of snow blanketing it. Plowing through the snow with my boots on my feet, I stomped out the letters of the first name of the boy I had a huge crush on. Giant letters, so someone in a plane overhead could see the name...I've always wondered if my snow-writing was ever noticed by anyone.
      ☃

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 1 cheers 2018-01-16 21:36:18

      @beequeen Haven't had enough snow to make one until this weekend, and haven't had time yet. But I'll get to it. How was your weekend? Mine was AWESOME.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-01-17 14:14:29

        @taylor Glad your wknd was stellar! Mine was low key, lovely and chill. DO tell your story!!! Who'dja meet???? I have met a slew of celebrity types over the years, including Barack Obama, as this is a vacation destination. Probably the one who slayed me most was Paul Newman. He was incredibly good looking in real life, but quite short. Funny and kind. INCREDIBLY bright blue eyes!

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        • taylor
          taylor Doing 2 cheers 2018-01-20 06:26:51

          @beequeen Last weekend I got to meet several members of the Chicago Cubs, but more importantly I got to meet Bonnie Hunt at a celebrity fundraiser and take a couple of selfies. I've had a crush on her for years,but my wife was quite amused and understanding. The picture is Bonnie and John Cusak.

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        • taylor
          taylor Doing 1 cheers 2018-01-20 06:37:16

          @beequeen Paul Newman, wow! I think you'd mentioned Obama before, which must have been so cool. I've never been lucky enough to really meet a president, other than shaking GWB's hand in the crowd after a speech I covered as a reporter. I did get to spend an afternoon with the late Elizabeth Edwards, who was so sweet, on the campaign trail.

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          • beequeen
            beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2018-01-22 17:38:43

            @taylor

            Yeah, I met the whole Obama family; I was their "server". He is kind of shy, but warm and personable. She (the Mrs.) is also warm, dynamic and outgoing. The kids were polite, but typical kids which was a delight to witness. They were allowed to be and act like kids; while manners seemed to be expected of them, perfection didn't seem to be. In many ways they seemed to be just like other girls their age. The youngest one was arguing with her mother about portions, for example. She wanted more, and Mom was like "I said, that's quite enough ice cream...." Which it was. Ha ha!

            That whole family is so.....normal. I mean, if I hadn't known who they were, I'd have just thought they were a nice upper middle class family from Chicago.......

            God how I miss them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Come back Obamas! Come bacccccccccccccccccccccck!!! LOL

            Instead, we're stuck with a ridiculous reality TV and Twitter troll and his motley crew.

            Merciful Jesus, help us............................

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            • khryssizzle
              khryssizzle Doing 2 cheers 2018-01-22 22:24:34

              @beequeen I'm glad to hear that about the Obamas. There is nothing worse that meeting someone famous that you admire and they turn out to be jerks

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              • beequeen
                beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-01-23 14:23:54

                @khryssizzle

                I felt very privileged to meet him.

                I sat on the edge of the coffee table and cried the night he won his first term. Cried with unabashed joy and elation, filled with hope, and pride. I thought "What a momentous occasion and opportunity for our nation and the world....." And it was, in many respects. Excepting our own self serving politicians (and some bigots abroad) who made it so very hard for him to do his job because they refused to do theirs and were (and still are) too busy playing partisan politics. Alas though......hear that? Listen, closely, carefully....that cracking noise? The Indivisible movement, the marches, the Me Too movement, gay men marrying the loves of their lives, Hollywood getting its head out of it's own ass, etc etc etc.......... Honey, that is the sound of the Ol Boys network cracking apart! And Hallefuckinlujah! Can I get an Amen?

                Trumps days are numbered.

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    • julettaskey
      julettaskey Doing 1 cheers 2018-01-29 16:18:48

      @beequeen Nope. My hip would never let me back up! lolol

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2018-01-09 17:16:30

    So, the site has been renamed to "Drimsa".

    Anyone know what that means?

    OOPS, nevermind, I see that its being discussed below..........

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    • aenea
      aenea Done 2 cheers 2018-01-09 18:06:47

      @beequeen there's also the fine print on the new logo. Would still be interesting to get more details on the backstory though.

      I suspect the new site owners were under some legal pressure to cease and desist use of the 43t name and domain, and this played a role. But who picked the name and why?

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      • Airos
        Airos Done 2 cheers 2018-01-09 22:14:10

        @aenea Fine by me, as long as the construct stays the same and the site continues. Dream, inspire, motivate, support, achieve . . .Commit would have been a key step in my opinion. Inspire comes after achievement too. I am getting really picky now. Dream, commit, share, motivate and support, achieve and inspire. Guess that doesn't make a nice acronym. Dr. Cosmsai. Anyway . . .

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-01-10 13:19:23

        @aenea Thank you! I love your avatar, btw. :)

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    • taylor
      taylor Doing 5 cheers 2018-01-09 21:58:49

      @beequeen I was kind of freaked out yesterday about the change because there was no explanation. I'm feeling better now.

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    • apapane
      apapane 2 cheers 2018-01-09 23:18:41

      @beequeen caught me totally by surprise. Just signed up yesterday and it feels like we were all transported elsewhere overnight. I ran away from Facebook to come here because I didn't like so much of what has happened there... And now I have someone following me here who I have no idea how to block. Unhappy me.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-01-10 13:24:59

        @apapane Hi apapane, welcome, if it makes you feel any better I have interacted for many years with three out of your 4 followers and my experience with them all is that they're lovely human beings and contribute much to the overall positive vibe here. As for the fourth, I am not sure who that person is, and I hope nothing untoward or inappropriate is occurring. It would be nice to have a block option. I'd have already exercised it on damnable spammers....

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    • donna
      donna 2 cheers 2018-01-10 13:27:22

      @beequeen Wasn't the stylized 43 in the URL for a few days even though the name "Drimsa" first appeared? (I'm talking about that slanted heart made from the 4 and the 3...which I did think was rather clever when I first found this 43things).
      I think Drimsa sounds like a new pharmaceutical. "Ask your doctor is Drimsa is right for you."
      Also, drimsa spelled backwards is Asmird (and that sounds like one of the distant colonies in space, a la the original Star Trek).
      I don't mind. I like Drimsa a whole lot better than the name PopClogs. I had a short stint there. However..."A rose by any other name..."🙂

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-12-19 17:33:42

    Does anyone know who jumped ship? I am down two, in both following and followers......who left? :(

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-12-08 20:33:54

    I am seeing broken avatars everywhere.......hmmm.

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12/07/2017
  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-11-13 14:51:50

    My rule in the last few years re books: when I buy a new one or more....one or more goes out. To a friend, to the local 2nd hand bookstore or the library, or I leave it somewhere with a little sign indicating it is for the taking. That ensures that I do not find myself living in an apartment with so many books that I cannot move around. (I had a lot more space for books in my house, not the case now.....I have had to take a more disciplined approach.)

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-11-13 14:45:15

    Cleaned my closet out this past weekend. Whatever I have not worn or doesn't fit was jettisoned. I do this a couple times a year; the recipients of my hand me downs are always stoked! :)

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2017-08-01 16:31:48

    To that end I am also not accepting more "stuff".

    For example, a friend just tried to give me some things from her own beadbox that she won't be using. I have enough in my own to keep beading for some time without running out of available materials so I politely declined.

    I have also encouraged family and friends over time not to gift me with things. I am grateful for their gifts, and have many creative people around me so asking them not to gift me with things that they could have made is hard, but I really do not want to accumulate more. Of anything.

    This weekend I plan to collect more from among my things to donate or give away. Clothing, books, household items. I'd been holding on to some of the household things, and books, thinking that I'd have another house by now, but that hasn't happened, and isn't likely to in the next several years, so away they go.

    When I was in a house I had a lot more room, it never felt crowded. And I don't want it to feel that way now, I need space. There was a lot of space amidst all the lovely things and decor. My current abode, an apartment, is much smaller and cannot accommodate all of the contents of my former life. (Not that I would even want it to; much is still in storage, and I have already given away a lot of that as well.)

    This is progress. Needs must; new space, different lifestyle. Evolve, keep my face toward the sun. &#xsmile;

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-07-12 15:36:14

    Have been working on this little by little for the last few years. I downsized from a house to an apartment a few years ago and as one might surmise, I could not bring everything.

    So, away with more of it.

    Ongoing.

    Just keep what I love and what is useful.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 9 cheers 2017-08-01 16:38:13

    I have been wanting to do this for a very long time. People say : "But that would be so HARD!" Maybe for some. I don't think it will be for me. I am a relatively quiet person, and am not conversational just to hear myself speak or to fill up silence. Last night I went to dinner with a group of friends, and they did the majority of the talking. I am OK with that. (Though, I will say, my penchant for being the least talkative one in my circle lends itself to often getting barraged by people who LOVE to talk talk talk......which I can find off putting to an extent.)

    Anyway, I want to do this, still. I hope I can make it happen in the next 12 months.

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    • rainbowssparks
      rainbowssparks 2 cheers 2018-02-12 21:12:00

      @beequeen How is this going? Am really curious as this is one of those goals I might attempt some day. Like to know how the experience was.

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      • runwim
        runwim 3 cheers 2018-02-12 21:51:45

        @rainbowssparks @beequeen I can only recommend to try it. From my experience, the most important thing is to decide upfront to stay for the whole retreat, no matter what.

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        • beequeen
          beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2018-02-13 18:17:14

          @runwim Good advice, thank you. I seem to believe it isn't going to be all that hard to stay silent. Honestly, some days I actually wish I didn't have to talk at all. LOL

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-02-13 18:16:06

        @rainbowssparks Still trying to find a place to go that is in state and affordable for me. I won't give up! :)

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        • runwim
          runwim 1 cheers 2018-02-13 21:45:01

          @beequeen maybe check out www.dhamma.org whether there's a retreat in your area. Those retreats are entirely funded by donations so you give what is OK for you (and you're not even allowed to donate until you've finished a retreat).

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    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-03-28 15:37:33

    Like this. I don't want one of the old clown ones because clowns are creepy.

    But this might help with the uh.......frustration, burnout etc that my work life causes me. I am a non violent person, so it's curious that this appeals to me, but it does. I do wonder if it will help the pent up energy I have as a result of the adrenaline that courses thru my body from the work environment. I have considered taking up running, but am finding that a little daunting as I haven't ever done it regularly. This, coupled with walking/treadmill and yoga, all performed regularly, may work to counteract the adrenaline with endorphins. At least that is my theory.

    And when I am done boxing it, it can serve as my dance partner.

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    beequeen Doing 1 cheers 2018-04-18 15:50:05

    So.....do I do this in the summer, with all the tourists around? Or in the fall when there are fewer of them?

    Hmmmmmmmmmm.

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    beequeen Doing 4 cheers 2018-03-02 18:11:13

    I have always wanted to do this since I saw a huge outside board in Galveston, Texas.

    Not a cos-play event, just regular peeps playing.

    I love chess. I am not great at it, but I can play. My idea is just two teams, with alternates (some games take a while) and two "masters", ie, two people moving us around the board. (We, as pieces being able to help with the strategy, of course.)

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    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2018-03-02 17:56:53

    Like this. On a large surface, internal or external wall, a large homemade "canvas". Using balloons filled with paint that people can throw at it, hands, splattering with brushes or anything else. I saw a video of this somewhere recently, and it looked like it would be a blast to try. At the end of the event, people cut off, or tear a piece of the project to take home. It'd make for a great fundraiser.....or, something fun for me to do with my beloved beasties (nieces and nephews) in summer.

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    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-04-18 15:57:00

    Wrote one to a friend a few weeks ago. Failing on doing it monthly though.

    I don't want to let letter writing slip out of my life. I enjoy it very much. Most people would rather receive a text nowadays, or even an email, but I still maintain that most people enjoy receiving a letter.

    What say you?

    Do you like receiving hand written, had decorated letters? Do you receive any anymore? Does that matter to you, if you don't?

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    • MayKasaharawithalongtail
      MayKasaharawithalongtail 1 cheers 2018-04-18 16:47:11

      @beequeen

      I was thinking about this yesterday. I had a pen-pal for many years and we've managed to keep in touch, albeit not often and not by written word. I've kept her letters, though.
      I have a friend with whom I used to write back and forth - how I enjoyed her round, loopy handwriting! - but we email now. At least there's that.
      My mama and I used to leave little drawings with notes for each other. I have kept these, as they make me smile.
      I prefer the renaissance nature of letters, tangible and often secret. I kept packets of letters for years, tied with ribbon, hidden in suitcases. It was satisfying to junk the ones about which I grew indifferent and delight in re-reading the ones that remained a pleasure. &#xsmile;

      Too bad that pleasure does not continue!

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    • taylor
      taylor 0 cheers 2018-04-18 19:26:53

      @beequeen Never get letters anymore from friends and family, just birthday and holiday cards, some with written messages beyond the Hallmark boilerplate.

      I admire your efforts to keep this alive. At this point I'd like to simply write emails to some family members who I'm not connected to on FB.

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    • leiermann
      leiermann 1 cheers 2018-04-18 19:42:01

      @beequeen I like hand-written letters, generally. One or two people, however, have the additional ability to create very special missives, with hand-drawn decoration, multiple colour inks, drawings, enclosures, stickers, etc - and they're wonderful, life-affirming and exquisite examples of correspondence. I treasure them (and my friendship with their originators, too, bloody hell yes). I have a 4ft by 3ft cork pin-board in my studio just for the latest examples. Seriously, I think they're my prime indicator of how rich I am in life.

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    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2018-01-24 16:29:30

    Wrote a letter to my cuz out in Washington state. He'll be happy to get it I think.

    Next, I am going to write one to his sister.

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    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-01-04 16:50:10

    I actually quite like writing letters. Especially in this day and age when most people communicate digitally. I get away from it from time to time, for a variety of reasons, just like journaling, but I always feel like my best self when I am engaging on a regular basis in the creative habits and endeavors that come naturally to me.

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    beequeen Doing 7 cheers 2017-11-30 20:13:29

    I added this because a friend of mine asked me to teach her. I was surprised by the request, but I thought "Yeah, I can do that..."

    I took it for granted for many years that everyone could (and probably liked to) cook for themselves and others. Til college and beyond, when I learned that that isn't the case. (Everyone ate at my apartment in college...)

    For me, it is as simple and effortless as tidying my home regularly, or brushing my teeth, etc. I guess I lump it in there with self care and basic life skills, but I also enjoy it immensely, cooking and baking. It's another form of art to me, as well as a life skill.

    Mother cooked and baked with us a lot when we were children. It was something we did with her for fun. As a result, all of us like to, and are proficient.

    It never occurred to me that this would be something I'd find myself teaching others (except the wee beasties, the nieces and nephews with whom I have always shared kitchen space).

    I told her to give me a list of things she wants to learn and we'll work from that. She wants to work up a repertoire.

    I think it'll be fun! And I may learn more too.

    It got me thinking...potential new albeit small income source? Hmmmmm......I am, in particular, really good at baking bread.

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    • taylor
      taylor 3 cheers 2017-11-30 21:49:51

      @beequeen That's so cool! I'm continually surprised at how many people don't know basic cooking/baking and rely on packaged/take-out foods, but maybe I shouldn't be, given how big an industry they've become. There's less value-added profit in selling basic ingredients, so there's less incentive to teach/promote home cooking.
      Rachel Ray got her start doing cooking demos at a local food store, if I recall correctly.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2017-12-01 15:12:11

        @taylor

        Me too, re the surprise at how many people don't or can't cook from scratch anymore. As you pointed out, we are also now in the age of convenience foods. They existed when I was a kid but we rarely ever ate them. The one exception was once a month we were allowed to choose a Hostess treat from a vendor who came round the area in a truck, selling some of those convenience goods. My Mother bought from him to be polite (he was a really nice man and had a large family to support) and because my brothers loved those snowball cupcake thingies. There were time she'd even send him on his way after having given him something she'd just baked!!! He loved her whoopie pies! LOL

        I wonder how much of that (not cooking) is because people may not have been exposed to scratch cooking as children, by parents who liked to cook that way or had to out of necessity? My Mother didn't have the luxury of a nearby supermarket when we were really young, so she became a very good scratch cook and baker using staple goods, garden produce and fruit, and freshly butchered, caught or hunted meats, poultry, wild game, fish and shellfish. (Luckily, she also enjoyed it.) That's all I knew in my early childhood was homemade, fresh foods. I didn't have milk or eggs out of a carton, or store bought beef, pork or poultry til my parents divorced and we moved away from my grandfathers farm. I have never in my life had anything other than fresh fish and shellfish, given that I live on the coast and have had fishermen in my family for generations. Conversely, when I met my ex, his idea of a meal was anything out of a box or can. He heated things up, he didn't cook. I was appalled and let him know early on that I didn't eat that way. To his credit, he readily accepted and even came to be grateful that I possessed a myriad of domestic skills.

        Who does the cooking in your house? One thing I have noticed of late is that more men nowadays do seem to know how to cook, if they live in a household where people cook.

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        • taylor
          taylor 1 cheers 2017-12-01 18:56:43

          @beequeen Very interesting to hear about your food upbringing! You're so lucky to have had access to farm-fresh ingredients and fresh seafood.

          We didn't have a lot of money, so we didn't eat terribly fancy. If we wanted Hostess Cupcakes or candy, it had to come from our allowance or money we earned. Never had fancy Coke or Pepsi, occasionally some store brand root beer in the summer. We had a lot of fish from the lake at our cabin in the summer and venison some years from my dad's deer hunting. I did some cooking with my mom as a kid, but I also worked at a local restaurant as a busboy and a cook. Later I worked at a Pizza Hut and made a lot of dough (not money).

          My wife grew up in Iowa, and her grandpa had a farm with a big garden, so they'd get a lot of good food from him. It's family lore that if you let your dog pee on the radishes, they're milder tasting.

          So, we both cook. When we started dating in college we'd make meals like chili together using hot pots in the dorm kitchenette. Often we take turns cooking -- or I'll cook the meat and she'll do the sides or vice versa. She loves to bake but hasn't been doing it as much lately because we're trying to avoid wheat and sugar. We did make some Bailey's Irish Cream fudge last night using the dairy-free Bailey's.

          We grow some of our own veggies, so we've done a fair amount of preserving over the years.

          We have watched a lot of Food Network, though less lately. Chopped is a lot of fun. We also watch Gordon Ramsey's Master Chef and Hell's Kitchen. For some reason, we never got into Top Chef.

          In the last year or two, we've made some new, younger friends who are more blue-collar, all wonderful people. A couple are accomplished cooks, but many seem to subsist on packaged foods and fast food. They don't seem at all curious about different kinds of foods than the typical American diet -- burgers, hot dogs, Kraft mac & cheese, soda pop. I couldn't believe it when one guy said, "What's chorizo?" Maybe that makes me a food snob, but there are millions of common Hispanic folks who know exactly what chorizo is.

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          • beequeen
            beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-12-02 16:09:20

            @taylor It sounds like we have similarities in our upbringings re food, maybe it was the era, the norm of that time? Whatever the reason, I am glad of it, the experience of growing up a time when it was still the norm that most food was fresh and freshly cooked.

            It sounds fun, you and your wife cooking together. That's funny about the radishes!!! And the chorizo!! And Bailey's fudge!! Yummm!!!!!

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            • Airos
              Airos 1 cheers 2017-12-02 20:39:47

              @beequeen I grew up with a large vegetable garden. Would totally love to have one, but live on a very small plot of land in suburbia so just not possible. But there are farmers markets with fresh fruits and vegetables within walking distance so all good.

              Love to cook, it a creative outlet for me. Made it a goal to learn how in the old 43T. I continue to improve.

              This is such an awesome goal. Good on you for inspiring and helping your friend. I suspect it will be a great time teaching.

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              • beequeen
                beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2017-12-02 21:47:23

                @Airos

                Thank you! Glad you enjoy it as well. I find it very creative and soulful activity.

                I miss gardening as well. From childhood, and when I lived in a house in adulthood. At the house I had...hmmm...counting...6 flower beds, one herb patch with a variety of herbs, one with just mint, and a medium sized veggie garden. And various shrubs.

                Ahhh yes. I miss it terribly. I have no outside space now that is my own, even though I have a great apartment.

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    beequeen Doing 6 cheers 2018-01-24 16:33:33

    Have practiced each night this week so far. (Not my home in the photo, but it could be. With more books, no curtains just the lights, and an ocean view. LOL.)

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    • taylor
      taylor 1 cheers 2018-01-24 17:00:07

      @beequeen Having a routine is so important, but so difficult, in anything you're trying to do, whether yoga, workout, etc. Congrats on getting going.

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      • beequeen
        beequeen Doing 0 cheers 2018-01-24 21:12:54

        @taylor I agree, and thank you! But you know, don't you find that once the routine IS established following thru is easy? You actually don't want to get off track. At least that's how I am. I want to get back to that level of commitment again, in a few things.

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    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-11-13 15:09:16

    I have been hard on myself about this.

    I need to stop harkening back to that self that a few years ago had a rigorous, 60 plus minutes daily yoga routine. I need to just accept that I am at a different place in life, and accept that what I can and am willing to do is enough, yet continue to steadily reach beyond what I have settled into as "routine" so that I can reap the rewards and benefits that result from a more disciplined approach. There is no need though for an all out "balls to the wall" approach. Gradual is OK. It is probably a much healthier approach.

    I know too well how GOOD regular practice, regular varied (poses and time frame) practice is for me physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. This is why I want to achieve it again. But I am not going to get it by comparing myself to how I used to be. I am not that woman anymore. That woman was in a different place and time, literally. I don't need to kick her to the curb, but I do need to stop comparing myself to that version of myself. It's not helpful.

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  • beequeen
    beequeen Doing 3 cheers 2018-01-05 18:02:56

    I have been thinking about having some runes tattooed too. I have been working with them for nearly 30 years. Thing is, I'd have them in a place that would only be visible to me or intimate friends. I don't want to have to explain their significance, but even more than that I DO NOT want to be mistaken for scumbag Neo Nazi or skin head/white supremacists etc, as that group has co-opted some runes for their soulless, ignorant, nefarious purposes, a fact that I find as repulsive as much as I find them repulsive. They don't deserve to have them adorning their bodies.

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    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2018-01-05 17:52:22

    I absolutely LOVE this.

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    beequeen Doing 2 cheers 2017-11-13 15:35:45

    I realize that I mean this both literally AND metaphorically. I want to be climbing trees again, hanging out in branches and around trunks. But I also want to get back on the top of other things, renew some perspectives.

    I don't know if I can elaborate on this. I am not good at divulging my inner most thoughts and feelings, publicly or privately. Whenever I do that I feel like I or someone else has just ripped a piece of my skin off and my ganglia et al are hanging out for all and sundry to witness.

    I have realized that I am reacting in ways I have never reacted before. For example, being a bit oversensitive to the snark of someone I don't even like or respect. Ordinarily, that kind of thing doesn't tweak me at all. I barely even register it, let alone take it personally. Lately, it tweaks me a lot sometimes, and my ordinarily chilled out live and let live peace out yo self may fantasize about giving someone who has lobbed a snarky, bitchy comment my way a well placed kick to the larynx with my 3 inch block heels size 6 boot. "There, take that Lady Snarkalot, and while you're down there holding your larynx together allow me to shove your comments right up your tight derriere......"

    Ha ha. Just made myself laugh there. (Pic is not me, just a random Google image that made me laugh.)

    Anyway, my point being, renewed perspective, obtain, again, maintain, again. That reactionary side of me is foreign. I want to figure out why its getting triggered and address it. I like the chilled out me better than the one who fantasizes about kicking people in the throat...................

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    beequeen Doing 5 cheers 2017-09-19 20:01:34

    The ENTS are my peeps, yo.

    Because I miss climbing trees.....................I was that wild child, climbing high, jumping from limb to limb, hanging from them, hugging trunks and branches like old pals. My first "husband" was a wide branch of a big ol' apple tree. I used to sling my arm around that branch as casual as around a lover's shoulder. I even kissed the bark. You know, come to think of it, I am still looking for a big tree trunk of a man.................jeeze......poor guy. He is going to have to measure up to an apple tree. Well, I suppose it could be worse.

    Not me in the pic. Random web pic. I just liked her verve and sass.

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