a warm cup of chai, chocolate, fuzzy blankets, good books, and morning sunshine streaming through my windows
Sounds great but need more details!
Hmmm I need to ponder this goal more deeply.....what is "it"?
I need to refocus on this goal....to help identify and shift out of some bad habits that hold me back.
Single negative behaviors/habits- being lazy in bed, neglecting my chores, not eating well, neglecting my finances
Positive habits- making my bed, staying up on chores, cooking, eating well and regularly, scheduling trips, scheduling time with friends, getting involved with groups.....find things that bring me pleasure- eating chocolate, drinking wine, etc and do them!
Initiate making bed habit
Initiate chores habit
Initiate eating habits
Grocery list to support habits
Meal plan list to support habits
Brainstorm list of trips I'd like to take
Schedule trips on calendar and make reservations
Brainstorm list of events to do
Schedule events on calendar
Invite people over
Sign up for exercise venue or other activity
Pay my bills and focus on financial goals
List of things that bring me pleasure and incorporate into my habits
So let's use relationship as an example: what is the difference between being single and being in a relationship or married? How does it feel? How do you act? What do you do/behaviors? I've been in all 3. It seems when we constantly live from a state of lack, we take much for granted.
Negative- lonely, "I'm alone", self-neglect, destructive behaviors, isolation, needy, neglectful, bored, rejected, waiting, wanting, wallowing, self-pity, depressed
Positive- goal setting, achieving, creating, traveling, moving, active, self love, interesting, learning, planning, social, self care, celebrating, more time for activities, networking, giving, thankful, happy
Relationship or Married
Negative- no time, no money, isolated, wanting, wallowing, jealous, lack of trust, neglectful, bored, tired, depressed, comparing, needy
Positive- supported, loved, nourished, active, learning, social, celebrating, thankful, trusting, giving, wanted, happy, partnership
Please brainstorm your additions to both positive and negative!!
The goal is to identify those traits, then to examine where we are at and start transforming those beliefs....
Rather than living in lack, this goal states "Live as if I already have it." It involves embracing behaviors related to my goals and the person I am growing to be in full abundance. For example, if I am seeking a relationship, I should be living as if I already have one, content in what I have. What does that look like? I will reflect on these things later.
@cia007 have you read Thich Nhat Hahn's 'You Are Here' ? highly recommend it. kind of follows this line of thinking.
@aenea I have not read it- thanks for the tip!! I will check it out!
@cia007 I like this one, great quote.
@cia007 Ooohhh, good one.
~ Katharine Hepburn
@cia007 I read one from Rumi this morning that I really like - "Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead, let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?"
@garrinevan absolutely love this!! Thank you for sharing !!
@cia007 I'm so happy you love it too! It struck me as being so perfect with where I'm at right now. For us creative types! ha!
@cia007 Do you ever read Osho's books? He has so many great quotes. I'll share with you when I find one I think you'll appreciate.
@garrin never read but would love to check them out- I'm a book nerd!
@cia007 He can be repetitive at times, but I really love what he writes. I haven't come across anything like it.
@cia007 “To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.” - Osho
@garrin lots to ponder in this one...it implies existence of a passion.
@cia007 Definitely. It's interesting, because I've never thought about why I create, more that it's a need, almost like eating or drinking. What about you?
@garrin well, as a child, creating was like second nature. Then came along narcissistic adults who sucked all the fun out of things and twisted the joy that originally existed in the creation. So I wish it was more like eating or drinking, but I've got blocks from being shut down, used as other' trophy, and shut down. . Working on that!
@cia007 I hope you plow through those blocks like nobody's business! I bet you're very talented! The world needs your creative gifts.
@garrin thanks Garrin
@cia007 “Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.” - Osho
@garrin love this!
@cia007 me too!
@cia007 I like this one too: “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”
@garrin this one really resonates with me....
@garrin now that is deep!! If we were all merely animals we could get away with everything...or be eaten!!
@cia007 Deep thoughts on the back of a bottle cap yet! Cheers to Honest Tea!!
Currently working on the class "Master Your Brain: Neuroscience for Personal Development".
So far I'm learning much about the Reptile Brain. I'm convinced there are many who live among us....
@cia007 ok this made me laugh lol. The idea of alien reptile people running among us came to mind. I'm sure it's nothing like that through your course but instantly envisioned the talking gecko.
@Andia oh yes- the image is pretty much spot on...think primitive brains and fight or flight. I see them everywhere now!
Ugh I gotta get working on this goal!! I saw the $10 class sale and just purchased 2 more awesome courses....but gotta finish the ones I have!!
@cia007 I need to look into these. You are the second person I have seen mention these classes.
Went for a last Puget Sound summer walk on the boardwalk today at the harbor. Lots of boats for sale!
Got another lake walk in today with a friend!!
@cia007 Nature walks are very soothing. I walked around the lake here in Blowing Rock with my Dad yesterday as well. Glad to hear you're getting quality nature time in.
Walked The Falls near my home the other night....here is a picture
I ran around the lake this morning with my son so hit 2 goals at once!!
Went to the beach last weekend so walking on the shores of the Pacific Ocean counts!!
#9 Painted Yellow Lines by Dispatch
Another band just discovered- I like their sound...
@cia007 oh my goodness love their sound!
#8 Sasquatch by Giants in the Trees
Former Nirvana Bassist in newly formed band "Giants in the Trees." It was both formed and filmed in my backyard....the greater Tacoma-Seattle area! Take a listen to their first single
#7 You're the Best Thing About Me by U2
This one just came out and I love it!!!
#6 Catch a Fire by Vince Vaccaro
This speaks to me....makes me think of where I want to be
#5 Vacation- by The Go-Gos
This song speaks to where I am at in my place in life- words are very appropriate.
A 2-hour rule once a week just to "think". Sharing and saving this article here as what is great about this is corralling your thoughts. I think I think too much...this might be a more productive way to actually harness ideas with intent... https://amp.businessinsider.com/i-created-a-2-hour-rule-based-einsteins-habits-2017-8
Purchased two canvases today that came with a free brush and set of acrylic paints!! Determined to get an hour in this weekend!!
@cia007 That's great! I hope you share your painting, I would love to see.
@garrin inspiration! Will do!
Any painting done yet?
@jadedforever unfortunately it didn't happen, interrupted by social invitations. Thanks for checking in on this goal and helping hold me accountable!!
@cia007 looking forward to hearing of your experience after you do this and the painting if you choose to share.
In keeping with the advice of the book "The Artist's Way," schedule time once a week to either work on special projects or simply get my creativity flowing. That time is unnegotiable, and will be treated as a "date with myself" and blocked off on my calendar. That time may be used for writing music, creating art, working on a creative expressive project that beautifies my home, writing my book, taking classes that advance my creative expression (art, dance, music) or other ways that inspire my creativity.
@cia007 love this goal! It allows you to get something you enjoy in without overwhelming with trying to do it daily.
@cia007 I love this one too! I read the Artist's Way awhile back and did morning pages for several months. I always got a lot out of those. Thanks for the inspiration re: artist's dates.
@cia007 I've had this book on my Amazon wishlist for years now. Do you think it's worth buying?
@WingedThing I think it's really good. Not that you asked me!
Dealing with energy vampires.....does anyone have any advice? I'm pretty sure I met one today....feel like I need to take a bath in holy water!!
Avoid them altogether if possible.
If not tune them out as best as you can.
@jadedforever pretty certain I won't be seeing this individual again. Sad thing is they spoke nothing wrong...that's why this is so disturbing. Maybe vibrating at a super low energy?? Dunno. My sense is this individual needs help from someone...I cannot help. Listening to my instinct.
Still obsessed with 3 things:
@cia007 It's so much fun growing sprouts, at least the ones that sprout easily. I was never able to do broccoli sprouts for some reason. But some of the others are super easy. Re: a juicer, I have an Omega and love it.
@garrin I've never heard of the omega. I was given the ninja but it is not as good as my ancient Oster. I need to find the ninja a new home and be ready for the day when my Oster spins its last whirl. I have a juicer but it's so bulky I don't like to pull it out.
@Andia Check this out - http://www.omegajuicers.com/juicers.html
@cia007 I have a juicer but have used my blender as of late to keep all the pulp. Though it didn't do such a fantastic job the day I used kale and parsley. I felt like I was drinking a concoction that I pulled from the underside of my mower. Lol.
Microgreens and Sprouts!!
Picked some sunflower sprouts up at the farmer's market today...forgot how yummy they are!! Abundance of nutrients helps glow and theybare super fun to add to recipes- very gourmet!
Might need to learn to grow microgreens and sprouts!!
@cia007 I have a green drink recipe from this health institute here on the East Coast, called Hippocrates. It's fantastic. Had this every day for about two years or so. 1/2 lb sunflower sprouts + 1/2 lb pea shoot sprouts + 2 stalks celery + 1-2 cucumbers (and a little fresh ginger if you like the extra kick). Strained well. You feel like a million dollars after drinking this stuff.
@garrinevan thanks!! The market sells the pea shoot sprouts too so I will pick some up next time I go and try!!
@cia007 Let me know how you like it!
@cia007 sounds like a perfect pick up!
Eat celery. Just found this tip- lots of vitamin A and is good for you!!
Food diary- going to initiate this going forward to help me stay on task with what I am eating, frequency of eating and energy levels.
Did this last night- hoping for a repeat!
Done tonight!! Feels good to have a sparkling clean sink at bedtime!
This goal is in keeping with some principles from "FlyLady." I have used her cleaning and organization methods over the years, not 100%, but would like to keep aiming for some of the habits that have been positive when implemented. One of those is shining and clearing my sink daily, others are things such as making my bed, and establishing cleaning maintenance routines
Something I realized today....even though I've "thought" I had good self love, something is still not in balance....something is holding me back from truly celebrating me for who I am.
Had a vision/meditation of a beautiful rose growing in a garden. Very fragrant. My intuition said this represents my self love. When I asked how can I change this- my answer came to pick the rose, to which I felt great anxiety.
I think it represents me keeping myself to myself and not sharing me and all my gifts with others. Somehow picking the rose felt unsafe. Yet that is the way to share with others. In the garden it is one of many, in a vase it is a centerpiece.
So...expanding what self love means in this context ...I must ponder.....
Meditation on who was I, who am I, who am I becoming
Who was I
In the past, I was a child prodigy, playing piano at age 4, composing music and winning awards. I was a gifted child, advanced in reading and academics above my grade level, talented at art and athletics, and a straight A student often winning "Student of the Month." I was an over achiever. I never really saw myself as beautiful, but rather, whole, and a bit of a tom-boy with a romantic passion for all things Parisian. I could act, I could write, I learned multiple instruments. I was a people pleaser. I was calm, cool and collected, fierce and caring, creative and funny.
At some point I started to realize I was doing many of these things for the glory of other people, and not myself....they did not bring be joy as they were being orchestrated. I felt a great deal of pressure and I started to rebel. As I entered middle school, I felt only the "dumb girls" actually succeeded socially, and so I began to dumb myself down, to dim my light, to stop living as fearlessly as I had. I realized people's jealousy. I never attached that to my appearance, although understanding what I know now, I believe it was most certainly attached to my appearance at the time. I was also the child of an alcoholic parent, which led to isolation from friends.
I was generous, volunteering my time to help feed children of migrant workers in poverty (the hidden poor), to teach English as a Second language, to volunteer at an Adult Day Care center, to volunteer with youth at church, to volunteer in helping depressed persons get their clutter cleared....
I entered college and although I dated did not date enough or seriously to really obtain any good experience. I ended up marrying the first guy I was serious with- a big mistake later. My habit of people pleasing had made me the perfect prey for a toxic relationship, where I would be further dimmed down in my personal life, the only exception being my career path, where I was able to thrive.
Negative traits from then: dimmed down, people pleaser, isolated, ruminating, insecurity, lack of self-love, lack of knowing what brings me joy, hidden, putting people on pedestals, feeling less-than, afraid to make my own decisions, paralyzed in action, neglecting self, not eating well
Positive traits from then: resilient, positive, successful, caring, talented, fearless, fierce, creative, funny, achieving, beautiful, athletic, smart, generous
@cia007 What a great entry. I look forward to reading more.
After more meditation on this goal, I believe I need to expand outside my comfort zone more to embrace my diamond self..... areas that I could focus on changing up:
Travel more, and get out of the house more!! (Calendar, savings)
Be more social (go back to Church? Toastmasters? Take a class? Social outings? Volunteer? Exercise class?)
Get out of bed...stop planning and start doing. I need to set a limit on my planning and reading time....I could do this all day! Must take action!
Be more bold in my choices- painting the walls in my house, remodeling, landscaping, going places. Being I was with a very controlling person in the past I shut down the realization I have any choices at all, and have gotten in the habit of maintaining the status quo.
Been doing some of this- here is a brainstorm....
Appearance- put together, nails polished, French inspired wardrobe, simplicity, hair simple but looks good, relaxed, happy, carefree, radiant, shining, high energy, expansive, open, creative, passionate, adventurous, financially Self-sufficient, generous, caring, warm, funny, fun.
Then breaking it down....a sample....
Relaxed- find ways to make life easier- crock pot cooking, meal pre-prep, online shopping, massages, stretching, exercise outlet, breathing, sleep on time
Generous- random acts of kindness, give more gifts, tithe- give to charity, volunteer
Creative- draw, write, paint, creative hour, decorate my home, hygge
Humor- jokes, standup? Storytelling mastery
Adventures- plan trips and outings, museums, hikes, concerts, fun runs
This goal involves the creation of my "diamond self" to embrace qualities I would like to cultivate in myself in order to fully become the best version of myself. I will expand on this thought later.
Meditated (although imperfect)
got off the routine with my trip....time to reinitiate!
Day 1 Assessment
Things done this morning for my routine:
Visualize- sort of
Journal- was rough but did it
Gratitude practice- meh
Review goals- sort of
Dry brush- done
Cold shower- brrrrrr!! Done!
Get ready get dressed- Done
Grab lunch- nope
Score: 9 out of 14
Observations from today: energy level high, mood good, individual surprised me wanting to go for a walk, got the strangest but coolest job offer ever (thinking of creating a position for me- not a done deal on the offer but appears serious) delivered in the most unique way ever (the stuff of movies- I was in shock, honestly, not at the proposal but the delivery method)!
@cia007 Damn, that's some morning routine you've got! Dry brushing is so amazing for your lymphatic system. I was doing that myself for many months using a washcloth in the shower. Formerly I used a skin brush, but this lymphatic masseuse I went to advised against it because of the dead skin cells that collect / harder to keep clean.
@cia007 you have piqued my curiosity on the job now!
Morning routine components I want to incorporate.....
So normally I have between an hour and an hour and a half before other duties in the morning. It takes me about 45 min on average to get ready (much less if I don't have to dry my very thick hair).
Drink water (put on night stand before bed)
Dry brush (before showering)
Cold shower (end of shower)
Affirmations (attach one to each action/trigger- getting dressed? I.e. Say to myself "Trust the Process" every time I put on my shoes, affirmation for brushing teeth, etc. )
Grab lunch out of fridge (prepacked)
Grab breakfast (prepacked)
That's a start!!
The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation also does some fantastic work in philanthropy including through the distribution of grants should you find a need that needs funding. I've also visited headquarters there and it is truly an amazing place....they use goal setting and LEAN and Six-Sigma in many of their projects to streamline processes, solve problems and enhance efficiency
One thing that really inspired me about Philanthropy was working at Microsoft. I miss the internal connections I had for this stuff. While there, I was exposed to so many active co-workers engaged in all sorts of philanthropy and super cool stuff...opened my eyes to a lot. Here is an interesting link from Microsoft:
I think I have found a potential inroad/start to this goal via my aunt and a new friend from Africa who are staying with me this weekend. It involves a few different causes singly focused. Quite excited for possibilities and connections coast to coast and internationally. I need to have a big brainstorming session and put together an action plan, and tie this into my 100 day plan priorities such as getting out of debt and writing my book. Baby steps but realizing I need to get gutsy and put some things into motion, and aim high!
@cia007 I like how you have a 100 day push in this.
My old roommate from college came to my house today to visit! Loving bringing all this good energy back into the home!
I've had a friend from India, a friend from Africa and my Aunt from Boston visit my home over the weekend!
@cia007 so lovely! It's fun having guests.
A friend from California is coming to stay with me next weekend! Maybe I will planning a hiking trip!
Another blessing today....my friend and I finally found a parking spot so we could go walk by the lake...but we were scrounging for change for the parking meter......only to find the meter still had an hour of time on it, so no money needed!!!
More blessings! Today a coworker showed up with a big box of delicious homemade cookies for me she baked. Sadly I couldn't eat them myself due to wheat allergy but was able to share with my house guests and son!! It's the thought that meant so much. Beautiful cookies!!
Yesterday I won a cool baseball cap from one of the Pacific NW Tribe's Casino....has a fish on it...I love it!! A sign of blessings!! ❤️
Today was hard...I sent my good friend on her way back to India. She was having a difficult time too accepting that she had to go (was not her decision...husband's). We talked about trusting the path for the greater good...God/the Higher Power/Universe/Greater Good has a plan for her and for some reason she is being called back there for now, and to trust that there is some good reason for it (safety, opportunity, lessons, to bless someone else, etc.). I think this talk helped us both....just go with the flow!!
Trying to stay in the flow. Things definitely happening- not sure where they are leading but I'm trusting the process. I'm expanding in my possibilities and what's been shown to me in the last week is so mind blowing it just turned my entire vision of what is possible and what my future could look like completely upside down in good ways, and in ways I could never dream of! Trusting the process brings surprises beyond what our limited minds can even fathom! I will ride the wave and see where this one goes!
Ugh! This goal is going to be a bit delayed for a few weeks, but one thing I think I need to do is perhaps hire an interior decorator to do my living room, and have a budget set aside for new furniture. It's time for change....
This goal is related to maintaining my home and making it beautiful - home maintenance, decorating, feng shui, self-expression, and hygge.
Lawn mowed today!! 2 full yard waste containers full, front yard as good as I can make it for now. Hallelujah it has finally started raining and will continue to do so for the next week. I am content. Bring on fall!!
Progress today!! Did more weeding and cut back all 100 irises that were planted last year, dead headed some plants and spread 5 bags of mulch! My front yard looks much better. A hummingbird was watching me intently as it fed off my giant hardy ground fuchsia.
Well..can't say it made my yard more beautiful- yet.....but I trimmed back about 50% of the gigantic butterfly bush in my front yard and filled two huge yard waste bins full in 2 hours. Feeling accomplished!
Trimmed up my front hedge and did some light weeding today- it looks much better!!
Mowed my lawn today in spite of having jet lag and serious lack of sleep!
@cia007 that is something after traveling!
Aaah forgot about the bliss of epsom salt baths! Got a crazy craving for one tonight...later discovered it's said to be good for not only sore muscles, cold/flu prevention and magnesium deficiency but also for cleansing your aura and restoring energy! I need to stock up..this could become a habit! Very relaxed tonight and had a calming cup of tea too!
@cia007 That sounds delightful. I didn't know about the cleansing your aura and restoring energy part. What kind of tea did you have? I found a local tea company here last year and was addicted to their loose leaf teas for many months. Tea is very soothing for the soul!
@garrin it was- I'm still feeling the benefits this morning, perhaps from the magnesium?? The tea I had was one of the Yogi blends...sweet tangerine Energy....good taste and blend, although I love the loose leaf teas too!
@cia007 Glad you enjoyed your epsom salt bath! Re: tea, I love how fresh the loose leaf teas are. Something about tea in a bag, I don't know...guess that makes me a tea snob now. Ha! I don't know how much time passes between packaging the tea and the tea being sold off a store shelf. I just wonder how that impacts the flavor when comparing with the loose leaf variety.
@cia007 I've never had an epsom salt bath. Thinking I need to add this to my goal list.
@Andia funny thing, I told my friend from India about my experience and she mentioned she and her husband regularly do Epsom salt baths for energy cleansing...so something to it!! At a minimum I think it feels great!!
Spire stats for between 7am and 6pm today:
66 min calm (average is 40 min)
1.8 hrs focus (average is 2.4 hrs)
8 min tense (driving, end of day, scarfing down lunch before a meeting- average is 21 minutes)
42 min active (30 min was a walk= 4,700 steps)
7.5 hrs sedentary (sitting in meetings and at my desk- average is 7.0 hrs)
Mood: jet lagged, conditions: productive meetings and work day, talk at lunch and walk with my ex
Spire still going strong, although I'm still wondering what the threshold is for the tense Alert. It registered 12 minutes of tension today- not bad but I noticed in 2-3 minute bursts. I generally felt productively stressed but seems it only picked up the most tense of moments and a few I was unaware of. Must investigate.
Need to recharge my Spire! I slacked today too on my vitamins. My son noted I had tight muscles in my back....wonderful! Back to the plan!!
Day 4 of Spire
So Friday I had 17 minutes of tension recorded....higher than Thursday but much lower than the first two days, which were close to an hour of tension each day!! That being said, I think it is picking up the worst of the tension, as I felt anxiety at other times but breathed through it and it was not recorded as tension....
So...I think this is only part of the equation but my breathing habits have gotten noticeably better!!
So next thing to add to my regiment:
Today my goal is to purge as much paper clutter as my recycle bin will allow!!
Double-timing this afternoon...with a busy teen at home clutter multiplies!! Spending 15 min in each room with a timer to keep me motivated.
Aaargh I feel like I went backwards on this goal today!! My son decided to line up all 6 pairs of his humongous shoes in front of the front door in the foyer.... I have PVC pipe everywhere as he is making Halloween life size mannequins....so I also have random mannequins all over the house....and remnants related to these projects everywhere....it's a happy mess but still a mess!! Giving up on this goal for tonight....
Took a bag of clothes out of my closet and drawers. Gonna drop it off at goodwill this afternoon!
Got rid of some paper clutter yesterday!!
Pausing to reflect on progress so far:
January- went to the Washington State Governor's Inaugural Ball with a date. Briefly had a boyfriend, who helped with my Dad's funeral video. Hosted my Aunt at my house for several days, made it through Dad's funeral. Got mom's finances in order. Lessons learned: I'm stronger than I think I am
February- had an awesome "girls weekend" with friends at a tree house north of Seattle. Got mom hooked up with a financial planner. Saw movies with friends and did several lunch/dinners out with friends. Secured tickets to Venice. Dumped boyfriend. Took class with Jennifer Grace "Creative Action Journey." Lessons learned: Enjoyed movies, procrastination is bad, I can make my own independent decisions, girlfriends matter and if a guy can't handle that he's out!
March- got passports secured, took class "Directing Your Destiny" with Jennifer Grace related to cultivating your creative path and goal setting. Lessions learned: cultivate a routine for creativity, EFT tapping works, visualization works, culling the "itty bitty shitty committee" in my head
April- attended an 80s party with friends, attended "Activate Energy" class, went to a few Trivia Nights at a coffee shop with friends, attended Spring Arts Walk with friends and an artist's exhibition, and the Procession of the Species Parade. Lessons learned: I need people, I need to get comfortable with self, I need to expand my creativity, Gratitude, my chakras are blocked, it's a good sign when things appear to be getting worse they might be rearranging things for something better
May- went on a few dates with a nice fellow who was hurting...a positive experience but no spark. Was glad to be able to help fill in some loneliness for someone going through a rough patch, I wish him the best. Continued Trivia nights, did several nature walks with friends. Lessons learned: everything will come to you at the perfect time
June- my friend from California came to visit, and I went to Italy!! Lessons learned: be ok with where you are, focus on the present moment, do I see how amazing I am?, just do it
July- Italy, lots of happy hours with friends, had my wine shipment delivered, H.S. Class Reunion, movies, had a random relative visit, helped purge Grandmas house to prepare for the Estate sale, attended a Dita Von Teese show with a friend in Seattle, went on a few dates. Lesson learned: expanded world view thanks to Italy trip
August- more dates, went on a 10 mile bike ride and trip to the Ocean, lunches and dinners with friends, got my son set up for school activities successfully, significant progress at work, got some court stuff moving. Lessons learned: look forward to things that excite you, cherish yourself, embody the emotions you want to receive, take more risks and expand more of what you truly enjoy doing
@cia007 what an awesome year so far!! I will have to look into Jennifer Grace.
@Andia ...Jennifer is positively awesome and her style matched mine well. She's super generous, genuine and raw....I love her imperfections because they have inspired me. Sometimes our teachers can be too perfect..she's real. Here is her link:
@cia007 How was Dita Von Teese? I've never seen her show.
@garrin she was fantastic! The show was surprisingly tasteful in an art sort of way. I really enjoyed it and the crowd was fun too! I think more people should go to shows like that...it breaks down walls and challenges fear of the beauty of the human body, but in a mild way.
@cia007 I love Dita. She's a class act. I agree with you...I think many are a bit uptight about the fetish scene, performances etc. To me it's like Halloween except throughout the year. Haha. A number of years ago I was really into reading Thomas Moore. He wrote a book called Care of the Soul. And he wrote about the side of the soul that we as a society often want to stuff away. I think it's healthy to embrace it all. That's what makes us human at the end of the day.
@garrin oh wow on the Thomas Moore stuff!! Sounds exactly where my beliefs are now...I will have to give that one a read. It makes so much sense to me, the concept of loss of soul amidst all the other psychological clutter...seems that's all I see today and is my theory on why the religions appear to fall short. I'd say it is human kind that falls short! Kind of the same idea/concept your bottle cap quote was aiming at too. Humans twist meaning to suit their own psychological clutter including right and wrong. If we were all other critters it would be so much more simple!
Working on 2017!
2016 was horrible. Multiple deaths and illnesses in the family, a painful breakup, health crisis and kiddo with broken leg all made for a yucky second half of the year.
What have I done to make this year different?
Booked that trip to Venice...you know what I'm talking about...(cue James Bond theme music)
Worked on keeping up my yard to the best of my ability
Re-entered the dating scene, although currently am as free as a bird
Used a meal/recipe delivery service to learn some new cooking techniques
Used StitchFix clothing service and a personal stylist- saves me time, money and I look good too!
Took a few online classes around self-improvement
What do I still need to do??
Expand!! This is where I look at acting into a new way of thinking to create new neural pathways that will help me become more of what I desire to be....
This involves identifying my ideal self, figuring out what she would do differently from today, identify the gap between the now and the future and then take steps to shift to the future. The calendar is my vehicle to make it happen!!
@cia007 I am sending you good wishes! I hope life opens up for you in the next few months!
This is a big goal with many ways it can be met. A few thoughts..... some things I love and have some skill for: acting and public speaking. I had the thought today to consider the following: get into improv, take a standup comedy class and /or find a Toastmasters again and have my son come with me so he can learn too.... I feel I need to develop my verbal quick thinking confidence and lighten things up to reclaim my right brain. I felt happiest and most free when I am doing something to move (dance or martial arts), create (drawing, writing) and verbally expressing (acting, impromptu speeches). I should follow that instinct
Tried the Jack LaLanne juicer for the first time today (was my grandmother's). Juice everywhere but tasty. Dang it's hard to clean though. Seriously going to consider a vitamix.
@cia007 I've been thinking of one of those too. I may have to wait until 2018 before I purchase due to car issues setting me back a pretty penny.
Starting with water. This week I intend to hydrate myself. I will:
@cia007 I've read that it can be better not to drink while eating. Not sure if this is entirely true but it is recommended to instead drink one glass of water 30 minutes before the meal. Maybe an idea for the dinner water?
Spending time with my brother last weekend at the Portland Comic Con was wonderful and we got to enjoy some delicious Portland cuisine too. Today my brother called me out of the blue just to talk. That was nice. Hoping to go to more events with him in the future!
Good quality time with my son yesterday- going for a walk, going to coffee, to the farmers market, watching Sharknado and playing video games with him. This morning we are cooking a fantastic brunch - fried eggs with salsa and sunflower microgreens and tiny boiled salted and buttered potatoes and making authentic Italian coffee with our new little pots brought back from Italy!
Last weekend I spent time at my son's concert, had my mom stay overnight, visited with her in the morning, and yesterday saw Wonder Woman with my brother and my son. It was definitely a family weekend!
Thinking about the role of attachment styles today: Anxious, Avoidant and Normal. Anxious and Avoidant always get together and have a toxic attraction. Avoidant and Avoidant seldom get together and Anxious and Anxious are like glue and very reassuring of each other.
I'm pretty certain I am Anxious attachment style and me ex boyfriend was Avoidant. It was an interesting dynamic, and probably not healthy. Makes me evaluate who I want in my life more closely.
@cia007 Hmmmm....I have never heard of these. I am guessing I am avoidant though. (I do know I am commitment phobic......) Or maybe I am normal-avoidant? LOL
A talk I was listening to earlier today pointed out that love is all around us if we recognize it....in others, in creation....
Inhale love....exhale love.... ❤️
What is love? This is a question I've been pondering lately, and I've come to the conclusion, at least in English speaking cultures, there is a lot of confusion partially due to the linguistic limitations of the language. In English, there is only one word to describe "love." It is used to describe many different types of "love" that other cultures and languages have words for.
The Ancient Greeks, for example, had 6 words for love:
For the purpose of this goal, I wish to focus on #4, Agape, or love for everyone, as I believe this one to be the foundation of the others, along with #6, Philautia, or love of the self.
With exception to narcissists, I believe many Christians and those influenced by Christian culture today misinterpret Philautia, by confusing the nobility of "dying to self" with self-neglect, extreme unworthiness, lack of boundaries, and sometimes denial of joy, pleasure or self-expression.
True and authentic love is solid, pure, expansive and expressive. If you cannot have a degree of healthy Philautia, and realize that you are here on this earth for a reason, and have a right to shine and share your gifts in the fullness of who YOU are as a person and who you were created to be, it is very hard to expand to true Agape.
If we can love ourselves in a healthy way, we can love others, and in turn love attracts love- we get love in return.
Working: meditation going well, gratitude, wine, chai and chocolate, energy, yard work, being in the moment
Needing work: creative hour....but I bought 2 canvases and some paint...so stay tuned!!
Working: master bedroom closet, donate, meal plan, shopping list, prune trees and bushes, weed back patio area, oil checked, hood ornament changed, cook dinner nightly and 27-fling boogie, and got a piece of artwork framed
Needing help: Roof maintenance, get oven fixed, garage, order bulbs, drywall, fall decorations, after school snacks and bringing my lunch to work
Working: Lunches and dinners with friends, helping friends move, go to airport, hosting people at my home, and have several other prospective guys suddenly appear
Not working: still need to find my next social group, guys to choose from...it's feast or famine!!
Working: taking vitamins, taking time off, eating well, went to doctor
Not working: the smoke in the air has prevented exercise, need to get my microgreens!!
@cia007 How are you finding your social groups? On meetup or somewhere else?
@garrin so far I'm not....most leads lead to Seattle which is 1-2 hours away from me depending on traffic and not practical most nights with my work schedule. There's also a challenge finding people close to my age...they are either 10 years older with grand kids or 10 years younger with like 5 kids in tow!!
In this area, many folks also don't leave, so the tight knit groups were formed in high school. If I go an hour NE of here I have a plethora of connections and contacts, but I choose to no longer live directly in the shadow of volcanic Mount Rainier.
@cia007 Reminds me of how things were in Boston (re: long-lasting friendships). Can't say I blame you for not wanting to live near a volcano! I hope you're able to find something with people your age.
Stopping to review progress on my 100 day plan:
Working: creating day in morning, meditation, listening to music, gratitude, goal review, hot baths, youtube, wine, chai, and working in the yard all going well for the most part.
Needing help: I need to write more and be more focused on my daily intentions in the moment, examine my creative hour and eat more chocolate.
Working: master bedroom closet, donate, meal plan, shopping list, prune trees and bushes, weed back patio area, oil checked, hood ornament changed, cook dinner nightly and 27-fling boogie
Working: been good with going out to lunch/dinner with friends. Have been too busy for much else and am ok with that for now. I've also tried out a long distance relationship briefly that was great while it lasted but 2 hours away with kiddos is rough. No regrets, had a fun weekend but mutually it's just not enough right now to invest. Maybe he will reappear in the future, who knows but for now it's where I need to be.
Needing help: volunteering or joining a social activity. Still haven't pursued this yet.
Working: going running with my kiddo, walks on breaks at work, eating microgreens
Not working: I need to get to the doctor ASAP, rapid odd changes that could point to something really not good/serious but don't want to use the "C" word. Have not been doing well in the area of taking care of me lately.
For the next 100 days, starting August 1, this is my plan for:
Create your day in the morning
Listen to music
Trust the process
Be visible- online and offline
Goal review daily- 43T
Things that bring me pleasure
Enjoy the fireplace
Working in the yard
@cia007 LOVE swing dancing!
Bathroom Drawer 1
Bathroom Drawer 2
Bathroom Drawer 3
Bathroom Under Sink 1
Bathroom Under Sink 2
Master bedroom closet
Guest Bedroom closet
Organize my photos
Clean out freezer
Donate (set a donation day on calendar)
Make comfort food
List of recipes
List of things to bake
Ingredients on hand
Stock my blankets and throws
Stock my sweaters
Decorate for fall
Decorate my porch
Make hot cider
Plant bulbs this year (make catalog order)
Light for piano room
Decorate for Halloween
Bring nature inside
Open windows and air out home
Get more indoor plants
Go to Home Depot or plant Place
Get a diffuser and make my home smell lovely
Order essential oils
Order bird feeder and shepherds hook
Use my fireplace
Nature walks on a crisp autumn day
Bark flower beds
Get trees taken out
Prune trees and bushes
Weed back patio area
Get hot tub fixed
Get sprinkler fixed
Get roof fixed (schedule by September)
Get oven fixed (by September)
Get drywall bedroom ceiling fixed
Get drywall bathroom fixed
Get drywall master bath fixed
Bathroom shower pan replaced
Fix leaky sink in bathroom
Paint living room
Get paint- Home Depot run
Steam clean rugs
Check emergency preps
Clean out car
Replace hood ornament
Start car savings fund
Fix car lights
Cook dinner nightly
Bring my lunch
Snack prep for after school
Volunteer (identify opportunities and schedule)
Have people over (schedule)
Remember birthdays (calendar, get gifts, cards)
Throw a party (schedule, plan)
Social media (monitor time)
Stand up comedy/study jokes and story telling
People I can travel with
I need a goal based financial plan. Putting this reminder here. It struck me that I lose child support in a few years. I need to make sure I'm debt free enough to shift my income and get those passive streams of income flowing.
Copying my financial part of my 100 day plan here for action:
Debt Snowball: list my debts, order debts, make a plan, by Aug 1
Will: talk to mom, schedule a lawyer, by end of September
Court Papers: complete papers and mail by tomorrow
Unclaimed $: find location of office, go visit office, by when
Refi: go to Credit Union. When? This week
Budget: create reoccurring date schedule
Emergency fund: Transfer $, how much, by tomorrow, schedule frequency
Quit Claim Deed: Phone call, find location of office, schedule day to visit
Mower $: transfer $ to savings for this
Tithe/donate: August make a donation
@cia007 Have you tried mint.com? I find it very helpful when I use it. Just got reconnected after many months of letting my finances go haywire.
@garrinevan I have tried mint.com - it has been awhile...should take another look at it! Thanks for the reminder!
@cia007 You're very welcome!
Need to pick up on this goal again.... emergency fund, debt snowball, and other financial planning!!
Journaled a bit tonight....definitely rusty!
Did this last night and doing it again tonight.... harder to write by hand, don't know why.....
Thankful I finally was able to FINALLY get back on the 43T board this morning with no strange popup error messages...
Thankful for my hairdresser/friend giving me her old personal $200 + hairdryer (that works great) because she got a new one
Thankful for a great weekend with my son getting pumpkins, lattes, and costumes
Thankful for getting my mom's finances for the month done
Morning comes and he informs me his homework assignment isn't quite done (he had been up since 5:30am) and that he'd have to skip lunch. So....being 20 min away from any store, I said a quick prayer asking for a miracle and immediately the first coat pocket I checked...I pulled out $15 in cash!!! Considering I don't usually carry cash, a miracle!! My son's eyes were very big!
For the sale at Cost Plus World Market....I bought a big pasta bowl!
For having the right words to say in a politically charged meeting today, impromptu.
For getting to watch my son's football game band marching performance tonight!
@cia007 I absolutely love this list! What a beautiful reminder that you are loved and blessed in the small things that measure up to something huge when the timing is right.
For pumpkin spice muffins and butter cream cheese cinnamon frosting....homemade!! Turned out even better than they sound. My son requested for his 16th birthday instead of cake. Very pleased with the recipe...will be making again!!
For pencil skirts- wore a cute one today and happy it's still warm enough. Soon I won't dream of wearing one when the really cold wet weather comes!
For my friends checking in on me
For productivity in meetings today
For a beautiful day at the Farmer's Market!!
For more beautiful sprouts I purchased...this time sunflower AND broccoli sprouts...so yummy!
For the gorgeous cut flowers I bought from the market for myself
That I refilled my chocolate bowl
@cia007 I buy myself flowers too. #5 sounds yummy!
For a nice, easy Saturday
For getting some chores done- laundry, recycle and paper purging, garbage out, vacuuming and scrubbed the shower
For time to work on an online class
For time to think alone with no distractions
@cia007 feels good to get chores done and stay on top of things. Glad you had time for your online class!
My Dad used to get the best big tamales at some place that closed down.
We haven't found any good ones since then.
Helped my friend again last night pack up her kitchen. The movers come at 9am and she was the only one packing. Got the whole thing done so she should be good for morning...felt good to be able to help!!
I was generous with my time helping a friend pack to move overseas.
@cia007 packing is a big task!
I was generous with my time in listening to a friend's problems....
I made Russian vegetarian borscht and cheese pyrahi for someone today and brought it to work for lunch.
I gave a gift of flowers to a dear friend yesterday- I'm happy I remembered the idea and to do it!!
Found a cool structure for meditation that encompasses all angles I've desired to spend time on:
All in 15 min in the morning!
Meditation last few days has been around removing clutter. Hoping for a big shift!!
Been keeping up with this daily since I last posted!! Lots being uprooted and hidden emotions surfacing....while some is painful I think it is a good thing....healing.....
@cia007 that is good! We can't work with things we have buried so deep we don't see them anymore.
Haven't made an entry on this but I've been successfully making this goal daily for the last week! Noticing a huge shift!
@cia007 I definitely benefit greatly from a regular meditation practice. I have gotten out of the habit of late so trying to recommit myself.......
Last weekend while at the ocean I rode my bike 10 miles.
Went on at least 3 walks with co-workers this week around town.
Today I ran for the first time in a very very long time and was able to run 1.5 miles nonstop around the lake with my son! I could have probably made it to 2, but being I hadn't done it in awhile considered my one loop goal done and figured I better hydrate and stretch!! We will see how sore I am tomorrow!
@cia007 wow these were both lovely forms of exercise, both near the water!
Went on a walk today, 4,700 steps....not bad considering I'm jet lagged!
Some places I want to visit next
@cia007 These sound like great places! (I've been to Costa Rica but not the rest!)
@cia007 Costa Rica is on my to-see list too. When are you going to go?
@garrin sometime after I finish paying off my Italy trip! That one was a crazy opportunity I couldn't pass up! Juneau likely next because it's close, cheaper, and I have a friend to stay with!
@cia007 Juneau sounds great too! Go see those Alaska glaciers while you still can!
Alaska Air gave me 7,500 frequent flyer miles...this could be the start of something awesome!!
Travelled to Italy and visited the following locations:
Vicenza, Italy- Teatro Olympico, good eats, cooking class, wine festival
Venice, Italy- Rialto Bridge, gondolier ride, Saint Mark's Basilica, Cafe Florian, shopping, gelato
Verona, Italy- Lake, Castle, Juliette's Balcony, the Arena
Tuscany, Italy....wine wine wine! Castles!
Modena, Italy- Ferarri Museum
@cia007 Sounds Great. I hope you enjoyed it a lot!
@spatz it was a dream trip....everything was amazing except going back through security/US customs it was so slow and rigorous I missed my connecting flight and they lost my luggage!! Fortunately another airline found it and is delivering to my doorstep at 1am!!
@cia007 That's not the most fun end of trip, really. I hope your luggage already showed up and the good memories stay!
Bought a giant suitcase today!!
Getting my packing list ready!!
Declutter. Well I have a decluttering goal separate from this one...but I set a daily habit of doing a "27-Fling Boogie" AKA Fly Lady to help me with this.
Light Candles. Daily. This one will take work but I set a habit reminder. I live in earthquake land so this makes me a bit nervous but I think I will try tea lights.
Good lighting....I made a note on my to do list to purchase a few more lamps for the home
Water my plants....I set a reminder to do this daily
Get more plants....put on my to do list
Zuppa Toscana Olive Garden copy-cat soup made tonight.....magnifique!!
Successfully made Malibu Chicken sandwiches tonight!! Turned out excellent!!
@cia007 I think if you add the word Malibu into any recipe and I would instantly want to try it. Hehe. Are you getting recipes offline?
@Andia here you go!! Found on Pinterest!
I added hamburger buns.....
@cia007 thanks! That looks delicious!
So happy- I was badly needing a trip to the grocery store last night but managed to throw together an awesome meal with what I had! Here's what I did!
Stir fry meat- beef
Tuscan spice infused olive oil
Salt and pepper
Extra virgin olive oil 3/4 c
Balsamic vinegar 1/2 c
Dijon mustard 2 TBSP
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp pepper
1/2 tsp basil
1/2 tsp parsley
Cherry tomatoes or roasted peppers
Cooked meat and garlic with Tuscan spice infused olive oil, salt and pepper
Cooked GF pasta 10 min
Mix rest of ingredients as a dressing and whisk together.
Toss it all together and coat with dressing.
My son said it was amazing. A win!!
@cia007 Good for you! Sounds yummy. I seem to lack the imagination to toss things together.
Did pretty good this week... made Grilled Italian Sausages with Nectarine Mostarda again, this time some of it improvised from the original recipe, and made Arugula Steak Salad with Summer Squash and a Roasted Red Pepper Sauce.
Made chicken with tomatoes, summer squash and kalamata olives with gluten free orzo the other night- a keeper recipe
Made sausage with polentia and peppers/onions tonight....eh.....was ok but not doing again.
So happy to find this site resurrected!! I hope to find some familiar places on here- I'm using my same user name as way back when.
I need to get moving on this and create an outline and project plan with schedule!!
I had an amazing conversation with someone in Michigan today- a new kindred spirit I met through my online class. She and I have similar pasts and goals, so it was exciting to compare notes and challenge each other on our goals. Continuous growth, empowering friendships, expansion of potential and freedom to be one's self! Such a rich and blessed discussion. I think I've met a new friend- and even though I'm on the West Coast, my far away friends give me excuses to travel!!
I video chatted with a new friend I've never met before in California tonight that I met through a class I'm taking- it was great and we will hopefully continue to chat in the near future!
My home now smells like pumpkin spice (at my son's request)
Let the decorating begin!!
Last night we bought some pumpkin spice cookies filled with cinnamon cream cheese!
I haven't tried them yet though.
I almost bought a pumpkin spice apple drink. Maybe I'll still go back & get it.
@jadedforever oh that sounds so good....you reminded me I need to get my baking on...maybe tonight!! Yes hot drinks too....I always make a hot drink station (hot cocoa bar, spiced cider, teas, coffee flavorings) whenntge weather gets cold. Time to start planning!!
That sounds wonderful too lots of warm yummy drinks!
@cia007 loving this goal. You make me want to get pumpkins and make apple cider!
@Andia warm baked apples- with cinnamon sugar!! Mmmmmmm!!
Hung my fall wreath yesterday. Behind on this goal but it's been hot. Tomorrow the rains come....it's time!!!
Goal is to get fall decorations up this weekend!!
Hygge goal will be in full swing
Nature walks on a crisp autumn day
Decorate my front porch
Stock blanket throws and pillows
Make hot cider
Comfort foods- think root vegetables and pot roasts- crock pot love!
Back to school routine enhancements
Snack station for after school
Stock my sweaters
Go for walks in the rain
Attend some plays
Attend fall festivals
Winterize my home
Check emergency preps for wind storms
Incorporate coffee ritual
Visit the market in the fall
Prepare my yard for winter
Get a good rain coat
Breathe in autumn colors
Listen to the wind howl
Use my fireplace
@cia007 So many things to look forward to! This goal inspires me to plan something similar.
Planters for the front porch
Yardwork-weed my garden
Farmers Market trips
Put some food away for winter
Clean my patio
Lemonade and iced tea
Lighten up the linen
Sit on front porch in evening
Make a cobbler
Fix hot tub
Get roof inspected
Go for walks in the evening
Eat out at a restaurant on the waterfront with outdoor seating
Wear more skirts, dresses and sandals
Read a good summer novel
Here is my starting list. Already my summer has been awesome:
Trip to Italy included a summer drive through Tuscany and a replenishing of my wine stock, as well as a gondalier ride through Venice, and the purchase of Italian coffee accessories that will be fun in the coming months!
Attended a BBQ with friends
Lots of yard work
Went for walks by the local waterfall
Enjoyed a crisp summer wine with friends on the waterfront- outdoors
Wearing more summer dresses and skirts- and sandals!
Hmmm what did I do to get out of my comfort zone today?? I went to Ace Hardware!! Tried to find spray paint for my lawn furniture but the empty can I had didn't match anything else so I ended up buying nothing, only after taking a quick stroll around to confirm...yup...I needed nothing!
At 7am yesterday friend randomly invited me to drive down to Portland to attend Rose City Comic Con...I hesitated but on a whim decided to go. Called my brother who was also an hour away and who loves collecting things and invited him to come. Glad I did because I needed a navigator!
Left my house about 9 and got down there about noon due to traffic- the fire in the Columbia River Gorge still has 40 miles of interstate shut down. Found parking. Saw lots of cool costumes including a few dudes ONLY wearing their underwear- not sure who they were supposed to be but pretty sure they came as themselves! Got to meet Cisco from "The Flash" TV series. Met my friend there briefly (she had kids in tow- but one of the kids started puking so I went it alone). Felt great going solo for a bit. Met back up with my brother and grabbed dinner. Got back around 9:30pm!
Definitely out of my comfort zone...can't say I enjoyed the crowds or lines or over stimulation of the event but now I know what my son has been trying to talk me into and know what to expect if I take him.
I need to break out of my comfort zone more often to change up my daily patterns and live life more fully- especially in the evenings and on the weekends.
I took a step a few months ago by traveling to Italy, but I realize I need to do more back at home. It's too easy to go to work and come home day in and day out. I need to visit more places, exercise more, try new projects rather than just falling into the easy and familiar.
Someone asked me what I like to do for fun....I actually had to stop and think- a lot of the things I enjoyed were things I did when my dad was still alive. Haven't done many of them since he's been gone. I like lots of things, but it's time to really fly independently on my own.
@cia007 what things did you do with him? Are there things you are interested in you've not tried yet?
@Andia I used to do fly fishing, kayaking, x-c skiing, canoeing, biking, camping and hiking with my dad. Some of these things are harder to do now that he's gone (canoe is heavy, need a better car to get to mountains/tow stuff/drive in snow/bike and ski racks). Haven't sorted out things I'm interested in that I've not tried yet besides maybe travel.
@cia007 ahh ok I understand. You did a lot though! Have you looked into the meetup.com groups in the area? Great way to go do things with others. I've been wanting to get into kayaking. There's a group that does that here I will be joining.
How long has he been gone? Mine will be gone a year next month.