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  • ligemst
    ligemst Doing 6 cheers 2017-04-27 12:37:10

    God Has Shown Up Once Again

    God has always amazed me as to how He works, how He communicates with me. I've really been in turmoil over being addicted to Dr. Pepper addiction. During my weekly EMDR session, I shared again that I was frustrated with drinking Dr. Pepper but we didn't directly address this in our session as we addressed just a seething type anger that seems to be coming out passive aggressively.

    The Women's Bible study I'm in where we have been studying about being an Intentional Woman God's way has been so enlightening and since I began last Aug'16, I have been changing and as a result, my marriage has been transforming into something better and better and parenting has gotten better, too.

    It has been truly wonderful, but a lot of work. So the next thing God reveals to me in EMDR is that He wants me to have a quiet and gentle spirit. That is not something right now I can use to describe me as I have a lot of conversations silently in my head. But those conversations often rile me up as they have sort of an Entitlement attitude.

    So now I am, in between EMDR sessions, aggressively tackling this nasty entitlement attitude through prayer, soaking prayer, Bible study, and EFT. Since that EMDR session, I've not wanted to have any Dr. Pepper. Prior to this, at least the past few months, it's mainly been willpower and an obsession with wanting Dr. Pepper.

    God has been so patient with me. When I begin to be impatient with my husband and kids, I am reminded gently by God of how patient He's been to me.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-25 14:49:35

    EFT & Prayer for Dr. Pepper Addiction

    So I'm randomly doing EFT for this addiction and also praying, asking God to reveal to me the roots of this Dr. Pepper addiction. Not sure if He has, but I did pray on my attitude yesterday.

    This morning I did EFT alternating statements on "Water is good. Dr. Pepper is bad." I'm grasping at straws. Repented for my attitude and asked God for healing for my sinful, rotten attitudes.

    Today I have my women's Bible study and they are free sodas and water. Last week I got water. I pray I get water again today. Been tapping on how good clean drinking water is, how it's refreshing, satisfying.

    Had a Dr. Pepper Saturday afternoon, so I did make it almost 7 days without Dr. Pepper. Then Sunday evening when picking up my son from a chess tournament, I got a Dr. Pepper. Was so disappointed in myself.

    However, Monday was a new day and I was successful at not drinking this drink and resorting to water instead. Today is also another new day and so far at 7:51 am, I'm good.

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  • ligemst
    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-24 19:41:34


    I am beginning to think my love of Dr. Pepper is actually something demonic. I'm obsessing over it and I don't really know why. Asking God to reveal to me why I love drinking this drink so much.

    It's not good for me, yet I want it. It's this and Pringles that I have issues with. It's easier to not buy Pringles than it is to NOT buy Dr. Pepper. There are convenience stores, fast food drive thru's where you can easily get Dr. Peppers.

    I know my body will be so much better without this drink that is full of empty calories. It's not about logic here, rather the emotions. I don't feel like I have anxiety. My life is good and I'm not worried.

    Or, is it because I'm content and happy that I want Dr. Pepper? In the past, it was when I was low energy and not getting enough sleep or that I was stressed. I'm not any of those now, but I still want this stuff.

    It's aggravating. I've been doing EFT on this and even had some acupuncture on this. Addiction still there. I feel like a prisoner to this addiction.


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  • ligemst
    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-24 13:31:23


    I need to get back into a good routine on these. I'm good with the restorative work, but I need to add some intensity to things. Feeling lazy and out of sync here. Just gotta get back into sync.

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  • ligemst
    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-24 13:30:30


    I'm starting to get back on track with these again. I still need to buy a good multi-vitamin, which I normally had been buying from a friend of mine who gets them at a discount and I probably need to get the probiotic, too. So many things to take.

    At the Dollar Tree, I got four 7-day pill box holder which are the big pill box since I have so many things to take. The collagen is 6 large pills. I don't have the multi-vitamin, which is also 6 large pills. That takes up a lot of room as well as the Ca-Mg-Z-D3 pills are large, but I think I only take 1 or 2 of those. The rest are small pills.

    I have a month's worth put in the pill boxes, so that's good. I'll see how my body responds over the next 3 months and if it continues to want me to take these things or delete some or take other stuff.

    What am I taking?

    • My heart meds

    • Biotin

    • Krill Oil

    • Vitamin E

    • B-12

    • Ca-Mg-Z-D3

    • Collagen

    • Potassium with Iodine

    • CoQ10

    Seems like a lot. But, there was a time I took even more.

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  • ligemst
    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-03 15:38:29

    One of the things I had NAET done was the pain in my left heel. It is nearly gone and really gone as far as I can tell. It's truly amazing. Other than the NAET treatments, not one drop of medication of any type - no cortisone shots, weird socks or shoes, no anything. It did take quite a few treatments because finding the root cause was challenging.

    My body is now working on healing itself with what I've got done so far. It'll probably be at least May before I get anymore NAET treatments.

    I've had to cease my walks and maybe going to do them infrequently. We haven't used NAET or anything to treat my environmental allergies yet and things are in full bloom here.

    Also, the other day I did some sit-ups and there was no motion sickness or nausea. Praise God. The NAET on this DID work. Well, I'll keep testing it and hopefully next time I can do more than 10 sit-ups with my sides cramping up.

    I am very hopeful that by sometime either this year, all the major and many of the minor allergies I have will be completely eliminated. No allergy shots, no medications, no weekly going to get allergy treatments, no expensive serums. All of which band-aid allergies and don't actually get rid of them.

    My daughter's arms are looking MUCH better. Still you can see the signs of eczema and still she's itchy, but far less. The cracks in her skin from the eczema aren't very deep and her skin looks way better. She isn't even halfway through the food allergy eliminations yet, so this is great.

    With all treatments hereafter for her, Dr. A can combine physical allergy stuff with treating emotional allergies with them, too. This will be awesome. So excited for my daughter.

    I've also reminded my husband that he can get allergy treatments for the issues he has, too, as well as our son.

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    ligemst Doing 4 cheers 2017-03-20 17:44:59

    NAET TREATMENT #17 (2017 - #11): Mon, 20-Mar-2017 - ORGANS/GLANDS - 18, HEALTH FEAR MIX

    I cleared the EFT allergy, as well as the 2 remainder Hormones that I was treated for last Friday. I also cleared all the external organs/glands, which is great, but there were 18 internal organs/glands I did not clear:

    • Organ Mix

    • Bladder

    • Gallbladder

    • Iieocecal Valve

    • Large Intestine (Ascending, Descending, Sigmoid, Transverse)

    • Muscles

    • Spleen

    • Gland Mix

    • Lymph

    • Pineal

    • Pituitary

    • Thymus

    • Thyroid

    • Bone Marrow

    So Dr A specifically treated for all these. Most of these things have something to do with the issues I've faced my whole life or adult life - metabolism, the ability to be able to burn fat effectively. I have noted that I am nowhere as strong as I was in my 30s and maybe it's because of the "Muscle" allergy.

    Some of these deal with the immune system, but mostly related to things that can impede bodyfat loss and getting stronger through weightlifting.

    This is all really interesting. Since I cleared all the external organs/glands, I am not limited in physical touch.

    Not really supposed to be thinking about health stuff in the next 25 hrs. This is all I'm going to say regarding health stuff. I'll have another day of not eating any types of meat or fish or poultry. But, I can eat anything else. But, I'm probably going to avoid dairy, too. There are still plenty of things for me to eat.

    My daughter got her #3 Treatment before me. She's being treated for Calcium. This afternoon, she'll get Treatment #4 - Vitamin C. She will have overlaps in her treatments because she only has 3 days to do them. She'll be home Mon-Thurs morning. I can control her environment, but once she's at Grandma's, I won't be able to control her environment and we want to be able to control this because of the post treatment protocols.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-03-20 14:32:02

    Today I go for treatment #17 and then take a break for probably a month or more. Overall, my energy feels not sluggish. Feeling a little down, but I am inviting God's presence into my day through praise & worship instead of focusing on my problems. God is bigger than all my problems.

    My daughter will be getting NAET Treatments #3 & # 4 for her today and then #5 & #6 tomorrow and #7 on Wednesday, if all goes as planned. That is A LOT in 3 short days and she's going to have to tough out the post treatments. She can do it and I can help her.

    I am looking forward to a break from NAET for myself to give my body time to heal. The post treatments can be a bit challenging.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-03-18 15:32:24

    Post Treatment #16

    Doing organs/glands mix, I am not able to touch any part of myself with any other part of myself. So, I have been wearing long pants, gloves, long sleeved shirt, a hoodie, long socks. Being that here in the Phoenix area, it's had highs in the 90s lately, this isn't too comfortable.

    Thank God I've been indoors or in the car with A/C. I cannot touch my kids or husband, no kissing any of them, tossling their hair or anything. Last night I did sleep in bed with a long body pillow between my husband and I and I was wearing long yoga pants so I wouldn't accidentally rub my calves together or feet to the calves while sleeping.

    Going to the bathroom, I change out my cotton gloves for thin plastic gloves so I can wipe, but not touch any part of my skin. That's just so weird and challenging.

    One of the things I've learned through all these treatments is that I can go through a big part of my life not conscious of what I'm doing. I think we all do. But, I've had to be very intentional.

    For lunch I just had a potato that my husband cubed for me and sauteed in oil, garlic powder, dill, salt, pepper with refried beans. I was hungry a couple hrs later and had a bowl of oatmeal with honey, a sliced banana, some blackberries, some peanut butter & chocolate powder. That was good, but too sweet because I guess I put too much honey in it.

    For dinner I had a P&J sandwich on whole wheat bread. I miss having real meat protein, but I only have 3 more hours of this. Yay!

    Not complaining because this is certainly more variety than when I did the Amino Acid treatment or a couple others where there were only a handful of things I could consume.

    My head still felt a little itchy. I wanted to do EFT but resisted the urge. I did the SBP every odd waking hour and the times I accidentally touched myself like when I had my glove off and touched my face.

    I still have some pain in my left heel, but less. It feels odd to be so covered up. Even in the winter, I don't like to be too covered up.

    Boy, if I don't clear organs/glands, this means I'll have another day that I have to be all covered up. Still not complaining but it can be challenging to be like this. Hopefully after I clear organs and glands, my body will heal MUCH better and I can see my fasting blood sugars really lower.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-03-17 18:51:59

    NAET TREATMENT #16 (2017 - #10): Fri, 17-Mar-2017 - 2 REMAINING HORMONES, EFT, ORGANS & GLANDS MIX

    There were still 2 more hormones I did not clear, but I did clear cortisol, estrogren, progesterone, testosterone and the other hormones I did not clear before. The 2 left are estradiol & pregnanolene.

    I noticed on the days I did EFT, heel pain came back. Dr. A tested me for EFT and I do have an allergy to it. He said it could be possibly that I have done too much EFT and my body didn't like it.

    Next on the NAET list to be treated were my organs and glands. There are so many things on this list and I need to eat basically only veggies. I can have bread, too. No meat. Cannot have tofu because that impacts the hormones.

    Cannot have any skin contact, and that includes touching myself in any manner in terms of the skin or hair. Thankfully I can wear gloves, but I need to wear long sleeves, socks, long pants so I don't accidentally touch myself, my feet cannot touch each other, etc.

    No kissing my husband and kids. This is only until 11:30 am tomorrow, so it can be done. Dr. A thinks it will take more than one treatment to clear organs/glands. This includes skin and this is such a big thing. This also encompasses hair, for which I've had several treatments for thinning hair already.

    My body cleared for cravings, 14 of the hormones, and for shower water for the hair. Yay!!! I'm making progress.

    I asked him if he could test to see if my body was resistant to healing. I've identified myself as overly fat, overweight and not at the health level I'd like to be my whole adult life. Who would I be if I were no longer overly fat, overweight, or rid of all diseases & illnesses, in optimal health?

    I think the energy of that can slow healing down or sabotage yourself.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-11 15:16:09

    Wife Report Card

    I was supposed to do this last week, but I did not. In my Women's Bible study, we had a Wife Report Card. Yeah. It focused on 8 areas, which were things that were covered in the Intentional Women Bible Study.

    They were:

    • Sober/Sound Minded

    • Love Husband

    • Love Children

    • Discreet

    • Chaste

    • Keeper at Home

    • Good/Kind

    • Submissive

    There were definitions for each of these and it was supposed to be his perceptions or how he sees me. I would have rated myself differently than what he did, in fact, quite differently except for 1 item.

    The ones that aren't highlighted were the things I do well, close to perfect for him, as perfect as an imperfect person could get.

    However, the things I got rated pretty low on were the things I highlighted. I couldn't help it, but tears began to flow down my face profusely not because they were low but because he didn't think I had made a lot of improvements in these areas in the past 9 months I've been doing this study. I knew there was still a lot of work to be done here, but I asked him to be honest with me and it really hurt.

    But, the thing is, these were the 3 areas that I had been focusing on and really trying really hard because I knew they were issues with me. I also didn't see myself as really too kind of a person, but he said I am really a good/kind person generally and it's only when I'm super angry that I might not be, but even then, I'm still kind, way kinder than he is.

    He said he could tell me what I wanted to hear, but how would that benefit me. He recounted many times I was not those 3 highlighted areas. It's really a challenge to hear feedback you didn't want to hear. He had to rate me on a scale of 1 to 5, 5 being the best.

    Let's just say the scores weren't good nor did they really improve hardly from the past 9 months. Though I may not say as much, he says keeping it inside of me until at some point I explode is not good. It's just causing anger and resentment to build up.

    Though I could name many instances were I was better than what he perceived, because I was intentionally making a point to be these 3 things, he didn't see it that way.

    He said it all came down to me NOT LISTENING and being REACTIVE. If I would truly listen and not be reactive, being opened to listening - not speaking or thinking about what to say, and really hear, he said I would be great in these 3 things.

    Even writing this, I feel like crying. However, it's feedback for me to use it to improve as a person. I have and am seeing improvements in my marriage where it was once not that way. I have learned to control my tongue much more and not just spew out stuff at any cost or at any time.

    A couple weeks or so ago, I began without him telling me, to work on my internal dialogue, which can be quite not good. When that internal dialogue, those conversations in my head, are good, then I believe these other things will be much better.

    He said that when I am emotional, all logic goes out the door. It's true. It's sometimes hard to accept that we aren't as good in some areas of our lives that we think we are, which is the case with me.

    Humble pie, but I am willing to change. I am willing to listen and not speak and to turn off that internal dialogue to truly hear what my husband, kids and others are saying to me and respond appropriately.

    I guess as I look at society, even I have elements of all the yucky stuff going on in my own life. I don't want to be the craziness society is and I want to be true not just on the outside, but inside of me. Lots of work, but I aim that this time next year, even though I may not get all 5s, that they will all be 4s and 5s. And for those things I did get 5s on, to maintain them.

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      wyverndust 2 cheers 2017-05-13 08:22:49

      @ligemst do you get to criticize him and give him a report card too? this upsets me a great deal because I know you give 110% to everything you do. I don't like thinking that the person you love the most is hurting you with criticism and not recognizing your efforts. Although my partner often tells me that I don't listen. I do listen I just have a mind of my own and I have to learn the hard way sometimes. It should not be a one way street and you should get credit for your substantial efforts.

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        ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-13 16:46:06

        @wyverndust No, he does not get to give me a report card. Each of us wives and mothers in my Bible study were to give the "Wife Report Card" to our husbands and ask for honest feedback.

        Though his report card of me for 3 items did make me cry, it did make me realize that I am not that great of a listener not just to him, but to our kids and others. It's a challenge to get hard feedback, but I really want to improve and though I give my all when I set a goal, I really fell short here.

        IF I would just LISTEN before I react, I think I would do MUCH better with each of those 3 things and I aim to do just that. It's against my nature, but I want to continually become a better person.

        I have calmed down the past 2-3 yrs, but I still have a ways to go. I sort of repress my feelings some, so then it just builds up. I need to be able to effectively discuss my issues without becoming all emotionally crazy, then I don't make a whole lot of sense.

        The persons I become the most emotionally crazy with are my husband and kids. They get the best of me, but they also get the worst of me. With these 3 goals, I need to be very aware of what I'm doing and feeling, and be very intentional if I'm going to make progress on them.

        I was asking HIM for feedback. He wasn't asking for my feedback. Sometimes he does and I tell him and it's not always negative. It's never been in the form of like a piece of paper with a rating system like I gave him for me. I solicited that information and feedback from him. It's all good.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-10 16:45:13

    Good, Not Harm

    In Proverbs 31:12, it says that a wife brings her husband good, not harm, all the days of her life. I memorized this quite some time ago, but lately, it's had greater meaning to me.

    Yesterday we concluded a 9 month study about being an Intentional Godly Woman in my women's Bible Study. We all are married with children (varying ages). Some of us have been married a long time, while others, not very long. Some have blended families. Others do not. There are women in their 20s to 60s in our group.

    Some of the women worked outside of the home, others had their own businesses or worked from home. Others did not work for money, rather were housewives.

    We came together to see what the Bible tells us how we should be as wives, mothers, and women. It's amazing how I've transformed willingly and see the changes in how much better and deeper my marriage is just by applying biblical principles to my role as a wife, mother and women.

    How I view things has changed, too and I am pleasantly surprised. Our culture and society is almost what the opposite I've learned in this Bible study and it's really a wonder why my first 2 marriages failed because I only applied the biblical principles I wanted to apply and took things out of context.

    One of the things that struck me recently was this verse in Proverbs. Bringing good to your husband and not harm also meant taking guard of your thought life. Often I have conversations in my head and though I usually don't write or even verbalize what I'm feeling or thinking, I was thinking stuff that were not good.

    The Holy Spirit convicted me of the tumultuous conversations I was having in my own head and how entitled I thought I was in so many areas. As I look around society to see how "entitled" people were acting and how harmful that was, I had to take a good hard look at my own self, my own life and especially my thought life.

    Sometimes my husband and I disagree on things and in the past, I would always speak my mind and do it in a manner that he found offensive, which is really me being blunt or direct without taking care of my words. I've been working on that and came to the conclusion that if I don't have anything good to say at all in a manner that is beneficial to others, then I'm not going to say it.

    This caused me to feel repressed and then I started having these self-talk conversations in my head that were just always things regarding entitlement, my rights, etc. Then, when I couldn't take it anymore, I would lash out.

    As I read that verse in Proverbs, I was so convicted that even though I wasn't verbally saying stuff, I was taking on a passive aggressive approach and that wasn't good either. I'm learning that I CAN say things that I disagree with without getting emotional.

    I began to repent for all these conversations and the bad attitudes I had, which resulted in my spirit quieting down. I began to see how even in my own mindset, how I can have a very entitlement based attitude, which I did not. I also repented for that, too and got healing for all the wounds on my soul because of these sins.

    It was amazing, but after I did that, the angry feelings, those feeling of entitlement, those mean conversations in my head disappeared. Now, there will be situations that rear itself up, and I have to be intentional especially in my thought life.

    Because eventually, the thoughts of your heart and mind will come out and it can be pretty ugly. So the best thing to do is to address it immediately and not let things fester. As I began to take control of my thoughts and any thoughts that were not pleasing to God, I would address quickly and not entertain them.

    As a result, sarcasm has gone way down to be more playful. My patience is much greater, as well as my levels of kindness. I'm also able to have better boundaries that are healthier and more effective.

    Sometimes, I'll have to admit, I want God to teach my husband a lesson about something I disagree with him on. That is absolutely wrong. I've changed how I deal with these that when I disagree and my husband is the head of our household, and I do submit to him as his wife, that I can talk calmly and nicely to him. I can pray for him that God would bless his mind and the choices he makes, even if I disagree.

    So the verse does mean in all aspects of the wife, she is to bring him good, not harm for all her life. She is always to see the best in him, and even when he makes a choice that can negatively impact all of us, that her love for God and him overrides that and she is still supportive, encouraging, loving and still wanting him to make the best decision possible.

    God does honor wives who honor their husbands by submitting to them. I've seen my husband change so much in a great way just because I've truly submitted to him being the head of the household in our home. And, submission, I've learned is not just physically submitting in things, but it's really willingly with your attitude.

    Our marriage has become much stronger, and I feel stronger and better as a person, as a mother, as a wife. None of us are perfect and we are all in a process in this journey of life.

    I think my husband through the course of how I'm changing, he's falling more in love with me and I am falling more in love with him. We both still have a lot of work for each of ourselves and in our marriage, but we are headed in the right direction.

    When that nasty I've got to have my way asserts itself, I plan to squash it and do the right thing. Doing the right thing is not easy and usually is the toughest thing, but it's the right thing and in the end, it will pay off.

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    ligemst Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-10 15:24:34

    Concerts, Plays, Tournaments, Bonsai Trees, Home Projects, School, Life Stuff

    My kids don't really realize how much I love them. The past 3 weeks they've had a bunch of choir concerts which has amounted to hours of this over the course of 2 different times, as well as driving time.

    One was a couple Friday nights ago, which was comprised of 7 honors choirs from 7 different schools in our school system. That was a total of either 20 or 22 songs. I can't remember. That was about a 40 minute drive in little traffic from where we live.

    Then, the other concert was comprised of 4 choirs from my kids' school at their school. Each choir did 4 songs and then each choir director spoke, gave out awards.

    Last night my daughter was in a play about Julius Caesar that lasted about 2 hrs. She had 4 different parts in the play and did a fantastic job. My husband did not come to this because he was on Facetime with his mom and other relatives, as he was tired. I recorded with help from my son on my iPad the whole play. Thankfully we brought a tripod because my arms even with a tripod got really tired.

    My son has been in playing chess tournaments many Sunday afternoons/evenings since January. Not every Sunday. Thank God. He now has enough games to get a solid rating and he's now ready to play for the high school chess team next year. He needed to get all his games in (at least 25 games) by the 3rd Wednesday in June to be rated in July. Chess starts when school starts, which is the beginning of August.

    All the driving, the waiting, the prepping for each thing.

    My son's graduation from 8th grade will be in 2 weeks, so I need to get his hair cut, get the correct attire for the graduation and the dance afterwards. Invitations have already been sent out.

    Also, all the choirs, plays, tournaments, and everything else they have had because they're in archery, programming club, language club, karate, mentoring, tutoring, their jr high and high school youth groups at church, all that takes so much time and practice on top of their school work and the projects, tests, quizzes, essays, papers they have in school.

    My husband doesn't usually go to the chess stuff and he did miss the Friday night honors choirs stuff. I'm literally exhausted and my workouts have been suffering.

    However, I do all these things whether I am tired or not, whether I'm too busy or not for them. And, I try extra hard to be very organized so that the meals I have planned for the week, I only need to go to the store basically on Mondays.

    Seems car maintenance comes up quicker more than I'd like but we drive our cars a lot, so maintenance comes up more frequently. I've spent the past 3-4 months getting stuff done to the house in preparation for the summer heat - all those home projects, and deal with any issues or unexpected things that come up.

    BUT, I am really grateful my husband makes enough so that I do not have to financially make any money, but I really do work hard and as efficiently as possible to really be here for my family and their specific needs.

    And, this arrangement we have, though often I'm really doing too much, is that I have great flexibility whereas someone like my husband has less working for someone else. But we are grateful that he loves his job and the company he works for is fantastic and treats him well, with awesome management. Really, as far as jobs/careers are concerned, it's really 98% ideal.

    We have a good life and I'm not complaining. I remember just not too long ago all the financial hardships we were in and it took a lot of work to get to this point. We are all a team and play different roles - each being very important.

    Also, teaching, training, correcting, disciplining our kids can sometimes be so challenging, but if we don't do it, we are doing them and society a disservice.

    I got a great comment yesterday from a stranger, a woman that walked up to my daughter and told her that her performance was the best because she did a great job enunciating her words, being quite audible, etc. She asked if my daughter was going to go on with a career in acting. My daughter replied she wasn't, rather she would be going into engineering.

    The lady said each of the roles my daughter did, they were very believable (except for the moment I saw that she was going to crack up in a serious scene - which she abated this). I am so proud of my daughter. Yesterday's school day was a 14 hr day, just way too long. She's had several of those days in the past 3 weeks, as well as taking the SAT for the 2nd time.

    Finals will begin for her next week and end the week after, so I will be doing some of the chores they do to give them time to study for their finals - more work for me. And, I'll be making them yummy breakfasts, which I don't normally make them breakfast anymore at the behest of my husband. However, I want them to get enough sleep and make sure they each have a hearty breakfast.

    The things we moms do because we love our children. My husband loves them, but he won't sacrifice in this manner for them or anyone, maybe not even himself. I see many moms and dads also do this, sacrifice, for their kids at my kids' school. We have close to a 90% plus of parental involvement at their school, which is fantastic. They go to a great school with a superb environment.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-04 14:25:18


    My husband asked me a few months ago to stop making breakfast for the kids, but on the rare occasion, I will. For instance, when they've had a long day, too many tests or school projects, or special testing, I will make breakfast for them. I want to make sure they have a good protein rich breakfast with some good veggies.

    I always make my husband breakfast, though. My husband is spoiled and he doesn't want me to spoil the kids. They make their own school lunches, which is usually leftovers from dinners I make that are usually homemade. Or, if they don't want that, there are a plethora of other options I make available to them with tortillas, wraps, salad stuff, bread.

    Today, though, I went out (first time) to buy each of the kids iced coffees from McDonald's. They were so tired from a long day at school and then a long night of choir concerts, the 2nd one in the past 6 days.

    My daughter's curriculum as well as the whole school's is all honors and there is a lot of homework each night. She's chosen her thesis topic, which she will do as a Senior next year and she will have to defend it before she graduates high school. Her school is very academic, as well as good at sports and liberal arts. It's a traditional school with a traditional education, just everything is accelerated honors.

    I've heard from many students who came back and said college was a breeze after going to this jr high and high school. The graduation rate for my daughter's school is 100% as well as 100% of the students going onto college or some trade school (this is rare).

    Had to go to 2 McDonald's to get the iced coffee as the first McDonald's didn't have iced coffee. They were out. This is one of the worst McDonald's as it's often out of stuff - ice, ice cream, now iced coffee.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-04-27 17:26:25


    The high school chess team has been waiting for the past 3 yrs for my son to be able to play on the chess team, which is only comprised of high schoolers. He's better than some of the high school kids even when he was a 6th grader.

    Now he needs to get enough games to be rated. He's completed 19 games and he needs another 6 more. Each tournament he plays in is 4 games, so he will need to play in 2 more tournaments to get rated.

    He needs to have all this done by the third Wednesday in June, which he should have all his games by the 3rd Wednesday in May. Glad someone who knew finally explained this to me.

    Right now we are having him watch chess videos and read books on better ways to play. He's a good player, but he has so much room to improve as he's not a master. Even masters have room to improve.

    He's been playing chess since he was either in 1st or 2nd grade. He's been competing for the past 6-7 yrs. It's been interesting and we've made some great friends this way.

    I only know the basics of Chess. He tries to explain to me, but my eyes just gloss over. My daughter has gotten back into playing chess and has joined the school chess club this semester. She hasn't competed in any tournaments.

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    ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-04-13 15:11:07


    My original yard guy failed me and I ended up going through the process of getting a new one. It wasn't terrible, the process, as I used the NextDoor app to find referrals.

    Anyway, Raul came and did a great job with his guy. We settled on a 1st time price and every other week service on the same day and we settled on a price for that. He wasn't the least or most expensive, rather somewhere in the middle.

    Then, yesterday my original yard guy texts and says he's back at full time doing yard maintenance. My husband and I talked it over and said we were keeping the guy I hired last week. We had gotten a letter from our HOA saying our front yard was not in line with the HOA rules, which it wasn't.

    Anyway, we had made a commitment to the new company and I needed to tell our old yard guy that. If it doesn't work out with Raul, then we'll rehire our old yard guy again. I was having a hard time to make the call. I just didn't want to text him.

    We loved our old yard guy and I personally had gotten to know him pretty well over the almost 2 yrs he worked for us. He did all the stuff himself and sometimes his equipment didn't work and there was not a big consistency. He had served jail time for DUI quite some time ago in Sheriff Joe's Tent City.

    Our old yard guy was reformed and we always paid him more than what he asked. He was a guy that made a mistake and turned his life around. He had a wife and 2 kids and we often gave him clothing that our son outgrew or things my husband no longer wanted that were really nice clothing.

    We wanted to see him successful, but we also can't not abide by the HOA rules as we agreed to them when we moved here. I felt sad to let him go and my husband was suspicious as to why it was so hard.

    He says I get too emotionally attached to people and things and it becomes a problem. I told him I am a relational person and that's how I role. That's one of the things he loves and dislikes about me. When it serves us, he likes it, but when it doesn't serve us, he doesn't.

    In 10 minutes standing in line, I can find out a lot about a person. It amazes my husband how much people will tell me in a short amount of time. People love being around me and telling me stuff. But sometimes it's hard to go to a place and people not swarm me because I'm just way too friendly to people.

    Anyway, I told him that HC comes usually when I'm here and we chat and over nearly 2 yrs, I learn a ton of things. HC had a really good attitude when I told him we need to stick with the company we just hired because we didn't hear from him when we needed to.

    HC ended up quitting whatever he was doing and now he's going to revamp things and start his own business. He saved enough from whatever he was doing at his other thing to start a business so he could hire people and get better equipment. We wish him the best and his family. He had a great attitude and recognized that we also had to make choices when we didn't hear from him.

    Still working on my boundaries.

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      doobidoo 1 cheers 2017-05-04 14:54:49

      @ligemst I understand how hard it is to work on your boundaries, but you explained your decision very kindly and positively. It sounds like your old guy was very understanding and is making positive steps forward.

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    ligemst Doing 15 cheers 2017-03-27 21:04:26


    I will no longer put up with crap from strangers on the internet. I don't need to maintain any type of relationship with a man in private in person or on the internet other than my husband, relatives, or friends I currently have in real life or on the internet.

    I've found that creeps and jerks don't respect healthy boundaries of normal, respectable people. Of course, if I'm needing help of some type, that's different but there is a purpose for my communication that isn't to privately have a relationship.

    I'm happily married. I love my life and I don't intend to ruin it by stupid people. I don't have a need to have any man, including my husband, validate who I am because I know who I am.

    There is nothing in what I've written that would give anyone the impression I am looking to have any relationship with any man. I post publicly and don't mind public conversations. There is no need to privately message me, ask me for photos, ask to chat with my privately.

    You will be blocked, deleted or whatever I can do. Thankfully this rarely happens anymore, but I'm not going to stress and let jerks like this (and there is at least one on here) ruin it for me.

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      doobidoo 1 cheers 2017-05-04 14:56:46

      @ligemst Well done! I had this problem with someone on the old 43t that was quite creepy. It's so good that you've spoken up about it.

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        ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-04 16:10:58

        @doobidoo Thanks. Life is too short to keep creepy people in one's life.

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          doobidoo 1 cheers 2017-05-06 11:32:29

          @ligemst yes. I'm hoping that they're not back on the new 43things, I don't really want to cross paths with them.

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            ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-06 15:11:54

            @doobidoo I hope they're not back either, especially posing as someone else. Ugggh. I've had one of the people stalk me do that - befriend me with different identities, even using other people's pictures and making up totally fake stories for their identities. The give away was their inability to spell properly and use of the English language and a few things all those "fake" people had in common.

            What is wrong with some people? Over 6 billion people on this earth and a person has to fixate on a person that doesn't want anything to do with them. Yeah, some people have some real mental issues and really need to seek professional help.

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              doobidoo 1 cheers 2017-05-07 02:47:43

              @ligemst I understand how this made you feel, there's some absolute creeps out there. I ended up blocking that one after he kept getting creepier and really personal. He changed his I'd too.

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                ligemst Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-07 15:28:30

                @doobidoo I wish 43T had a way to block people that you could do yourself instead of just the "Report" button. It should still have the "Report" button, but have the "Block" in addition.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-03-27 20:58:07


    I just sent an email regarding payments for this vehicle to the woman I sold it to. Really, I wished I sold this vehicle to a day laborer in cash. One and a half years later, I'm still dealing with the wretched woman who is the mother of one of my friends and one of my daughter's friends (grandmother).

    I set a boundary and asked for my friend's help, since she's the one that got me into this. I was trying to do a favor for her and to help her mom out and her mom is totally screwing me over on this.

    Not putting up with this nonsense anymore.

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    ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-03-27 20:33:18


    My ex contacted me requesting something from me, but I did not give him an answer that he wanted to hear and was really just vague. At this point in my life and from all that has transpired, I owe him nothing.

    We both had a part in ruining our marriage, but how he treated me during and afterwards was simply awful. No point going through all that again and rehashing it. Then, the years that ensued with court battles and everything, the kids. I could write a book on this.

    Last year was a pivotable point for the kids and I. We no longer are constrained to his whims, nastiness. Legally he has no rights to the kids, but he still has a financial obligation to them until something else happens.

    I've moved on with the kids and my husband. I told him never to contact me again about what he contacted me about. He can take things up with the court, if he so chooses. They have the final say in things and the legality of things.

    There were so many times he was a jerk and really a bad guy. He always played like he was doing me a favor, and that he really is a good guy. Yeah, okay. Whatever.

    He thinks as a Christian I need to be subject to him. I'm not married to him any longer, nor am I legally bound to him in anything. If he continues to contact me regarding any issue, I will construe it as harassment and take legal actions against him.

    I've had to abide by his stuff which were similar. He was such a jerk to us last year refusing to sign 2 simple pieces of paper allowing our kids to do something that we needed his legal permission. He wouldn't do it. There was no cost to him at all.

    All he could focus was on how much pain he's gone through for this whole process, and how terrible his life has been, and his precious cat.

    Well, the financial loss I had was oodles more than him, causing me to eventually need to give up our home and move in with my father for 6 yrs. All the times I dealt with him bullying me and all the police calls and lies he told them to harass me. All the times he didn't pay child support and the accruing interest & arrears he owes.

    All the grief he's put the kids and I through and the years of counseling we've needed for all his insanity. I've eaten Humble Pie over and over for years and just sucked it up.

    He expects me to help him, to make his life easier? I don't think so. Whatever he's does, he has it coming to him. I didn't create his mess. He created it and it's up to him to do with it whatever he chooses. If he's successful, it's because of him. If he fails, it's because of him.

    I don't wish ill upon him. I let him go and he is just neutral. I am more than meeting my legal obligations to the kids and so much more. He isn't. Eventually this will catch up to him, but for now, I'm not pursuing him lack of child support and the increasing arrears and interest.

    If he gets sent to jail for failure to pay, not my problem. Yes, he won't be able to really pay in jail, but I don't really care. My son and daughter are amazing people not because of my ex, but in spite of him. I have surrounded the kids with wonderful people of good character.

    If you do bad things and screw people over and over again, eventually it bites you in the butt. It's starting to happen more and more for my ex and it's his own fault. Bye bye.

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    ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-03-09 15:11:52


    Years ago, I had awful personal boundaries. I ended up getting a number of books on the topic of Boundaries by Drs Henry Cloud and John Townsend. I read them and put them into action, at least what I understood.

    They helped me a lot with many relationships, especially my mom. However, I think I only really did a small portion of the books and understood only a small portion of them.

    As I've been conversing with Dr. A, my acupuncturist as well as my self-defense instructor, a multiple of times he's mentioned not only to me, but to others regarding the topic of having healthy boundaries.

    Yesterday he subtle mentioned it would be good if Cloud and Townsend wrote a book on Boundaries with Spouses. Well, they wrote a book on Boundaries in Marriage. They have a bunch of books that address boundaries in: marriage, in general, teens, kids, leaders/business, your mother, dating, after broken relationships.

    The cost of the book for marriage wasn't much and I had free Prime shipping, but I really didn't want to read a book. I saw that it was available in Audible, as well as the Boundaries with Teens. I got both of them in Audible and downloaded to my iPhone as well as my iPad.

    I began listening to the marriage one first and boy, I didn't realize I had such poor boundaries in my marriage with my husband. He has better boundaries with me, but mine really stink. I've only listened to maybe a couple hours of the 9 hrs of the audio, but I'm learning so much. It will have to be a relisten for me to really understand more and put into play.

    Because I have poor boundaries in our marriage, I find myself frustrated often and upset. I learned that I'm really an Enabler for my husband and I've got to stop doing that and let him take responsibility for his own stuff.

    Last night I tried out this and let my husband own his own feelings and refused to give in to his emotional manipulation. I didn't allow him to make me feel bad for something I didn't want to do at the time he wanted. I told him I would be willing to do his request, but when it was convenient to me. He then sort of had a sulky mood, but I didn't care.

    I called out his sulky mood and I'm going to keep calling it out. I told him I loved him, and he can either wait until I'm ready or get nothing. Eventually he saw the light and just waited. He said he wasn't in a bad mood, but I could tell he was starting to get into a bad mood.

    Often I have felt resentful and just listening to the couple hrs made me realize that I have to own that and not having good boundaries with him. The end result was me still fulfilling my husband's request, but it was when I wanted it instead of giving in when I didn't want to.

    When there are no boundaries, there is no safety or security. Feelings of bitterness and resentment build up. But when you have healthy boundaries, there is great freedom. Just by that simple act of speaking my desire and not enabling my husband, letting him own his own feelings and actions was so freeing.

    It was actually one of the first times I felt happy to oblige his request, a request he's made of me for the past couple years or more.

    So glad I got this on Audible. I'm going to see our marriage deepen even more as I learn to develop and integrate healthy boundaries in our marriage and in our family with the kids. I'm sure I can do something similar when I volunteer for things so I don't get that resentment and frustration I felt as a Team Soccer Mom.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-24 13:42:42

    We're still in need to make reservations for the first night of our trip and the last night of our trip, which will be some way between here and where we have our reservations.

    Maybe we can get this done in the next couple weeks.

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    ligemst Doing 7 cheers 2017-02-25 16:01:42

    Our room is already booked for 2 nights - the night before and after the eclipse.

    The best place, which is I believe Douglass, WY, we can't get to because everything has been booked for so long, including campsites, but we will be in its path in Idaho, as that's closer to us than WY.

    We still need to do hotel reservations for before we get to ID and after.

    [Total Solar Eclipse Path in U.S.] (http://www.eclipse2017.org/2017/maps/us-zoom1.jpg)

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      hhannah 2 cheers 2017-04-05 19:59:55

      @ligemst really cool ! When does this happen?

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      tarrador 5 cheers 2017-04-06 04:04:52

      @ligemst Luckily the path of the eclipse is going to touch the tri-tips of Georgia, South Carolina and North Carolina, only a 1-1/2 hour drive northeast for me. We plan to take the whole day, drive up early, GPS as close as we can to the total eclipse path, and just park the car. We might find a locale in Tennessee as well, depending upon clouds and weather.

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        ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-04-06 13:22:15

        @tarrador That's great. We are taking 2 days to drive up to the area because it is just too far from where we live (the Phoenix, AZ area). I'm excited for it. This will be the last eclipse like this while the kids are minors and the next will be in their 20s and to get us all together will be a challenge.

        They will have to miss a little bit of school, but I think worth it. Hopefully little to no clouds for all of us.

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      becoming 0 cheers 2017-08-03 09:30:03

      @ligemst Enjoy! I just happen to live right in the belt of good viewing of the eclipse on the west coast. Not sure if that's lucky or unlucky. The view will be cool, but we're also expecting to have insane traffic, etc that week. Maybe I should just camp at work that week so I'm not late?

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-13 05:09:49


    I wished I had thought of this several years ago. Teacher Appreciation week is always the first half of May or so. My thought is for the kids starting at the beginning of the school year to keep a journal for each teacher they have.

    For that journal, they write about the teacher, how they are learning as a student, what strikes them, any epiphanies, funny stories. They can draw in the journal, do any art work. It's mainly like a scrapbook of the school year for that teacher that they can give to the teacher at the end of the year for Teacher Appreciation.

    Maybe for each week or a month, we put a certain amount aside for each teacher to give them a VISA gift card or something that can be given at the end of the year.

    Maybe a picture would be taken at the beginning of the year of my kid and then at the end of the year. Maybe how they've grown and the impact that the teacher has been in this past year of their lives.

    I remember the teachers each did this for each of their students when they were in kindergarten through 2nd grade. Why can't they do something like this but for the teacher in these high school years?

    Going to have the kids do this next year. It'll be my daughter's Senior year in high school and my son's Freshman year. I think it will mean a lot for the teachers since it will take basically 10 months to do.

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    • wyverndust
      wyverndust 1 cheers 2017-05-13 08:17:18

      @ligemst my sister teaches 2nd grade. I will tell her about this. I bet she will love it

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        ligemst Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-13 18:52:28

        @wyverndust That would be great, if she doesn't already do it for her students. I do remember my kids each year coming back with a journal like this that the teachers kept for each kid and gave them to them at the end of the year. It was a different things they had done throughout the school. I LOVED getting them and seeing their progress.

        I think as middle school and high school years, it's more meaningful to have the teachers get these books than them doing it for the students. The teachers at our school don't get paid that much, but they give so much. We're not financially wealthy like some of the mega millionaire parents at the school and they can really give some big financial gifts, but this is something that is very personal between my child and the teacher.

        This is especially wonderful if you have the same teacher for multiple years in different subjects. It takes a lot of thought and cumulative time.

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    ligemst Doing 0 cheers 2017-05-06 23:27:28

    East Neighbors

    I really dislike these neighbors. We didn't care for the neighbors that lived there before them, but now those ex-neighbors seem like a walk in the park. Our current neighbors play their music WAY too loud and that incessant bass beat is mind numbing.

    They leave their glaring light on all night that faces into our living room. Thankfully we don't usually open those curtains/blinds. We've kindly asked them to turn off the light at night or put a motion sensor light which would only come on if someone was nearby, which makes sense.

    We live in a nice neighborhood where it's usually very quiet, tall, mature big trees . . . looks like something from back East some. It's like this blaring Mexican music, which my husband hates. It's fine if they play Mexican music, but they don't have to play it sooo loud. Our house does not need to shake.

    Our neighbors to the west of us are mainly fine and I like them, minus the daughter's inconsiderate boyfriend who has thrown his cigarettes into our yard. Just with the loud Mexican music and this boyfriend, it makes it seem like our neighborhood is trashy, but it's not.

    I hope they miss their rent payments and get kicked out (our east neighbors. I know that's mean to say, but I think as a neighbor, you need to be considerate of others.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-04-27 17:18:35

    Braces Off

    My son got his braces off today. It was supposed to be 2 weeks ago, but he had some school testing he could not miss. He gets his retainer on Monday, only because neither he nor I want him to miss anymore school.

    His orthodontist is about 1/2 hr from his school, so that would be another hour of driving and I just don't feel too great.

    He looks so cute and handsome. Of course, he was embarrassed that I was making such a big deal out of it in the car (in private). Moooommmm. Hides his face.

    Teenage boys sure get embarrassed really easily anytime, well, at least my son. He says it feels weird that his braces are off. Well, duh. He's had them on for 22 months. Of course it's going to feel a little weird.

    He had a beautiful smile and his bite has been corrected.

    Our daughter wore her braces for 12 1/2 months and got them off last summer, right before her 16th birthday. I'm sure my daughter can share her retainer experience with her brother.

    We loved the orthodontist and his office. They have been great to work with and gave us great prices with excellent service and quality of work.

    Praise God!!!

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-04-24 16:24:28

    Solar Walkway Lights

    I got this GREAT deal on solar walkway lights a week ago. We had these inexpensive lights you get at the 99 Cents store and they worked, but my husband wanted bigger and nicer lights.

    Costco had 8 HUGE lights for $40. I bought them as they were $10 off (regularly $50). Then either the next day or that day, I found in one of my emails that Home Depot (oh, it was Good Friday) was selling a set of 6 for $12. Amazon had those same ones for $34. Regularly at Home Depot they were $18-20.

    I have Giving Assistant as a part of my Bookmarks bar and have earned extra money just shopping on the sites I normally shop at. They will give me cash money back (or you can donate the money, too). For example, when I buy from a link from their site going to Under Armour through them, I will get 6% cashback. Some sites are 1% and even some give up to 10%.

    They've paid me twice using PayPal, or maybe 3x. I can't remember. I wish they gave cashback for shopping on Amazon because we buy A LOT and often there, but they don't. However, at Home Depot it gives you 3% back. Target 1.7%. It may not seem like a lot, but it all adds up.

    Anyway, if you choose to use Giving Assistant, let me know and I can give you a referral link so I can earn some extra money by referring you, if you would be so kind to do that for me. If not, then that's fine, also. I don't know if I can post here or not, so I don't want to be in violation of 43T's terms of service. Just PM me and I'll give you my referral link.

    Anyway, I also saw on Giving Assistant that I could get 20% off on all Landscaping stuff, which these lights qualify as that, dropping the price to $9.6/set of 6. I get another $0.31 off from the 3% cashback and using the credit card I used, I also got more cashback.

    These basically made each light about $1.5 after tax, which only made them about $0.40 more than the 99 Cents store lights. These are MUCH better, nice, and give off a lot more light. Bought 6 boxes (total of 36 lights). 14 of the lights went up in our front walkway and hopefully this weekend, I will put the other 22 lights in the backyard surrounding the grass.

    My husband and kids like the lights. I'll be returning the Costco lights. Our home/yard is looking cozier and cozier.

    I did see a ramada thing that I wanted from Lowe's but that is really expensive. We'll probably end up having to pull the LARGE tree in our backyard as when the original owners back 18 yrs ago when the house was built planted the tree too close to the block wall fence. It's really messing up the block wall and the roots have grown across our yard.

    Guessing in the next year we'll need to remove that tree, which will be quite costly and repair the block wall between our neighbor and us. After that, probably remodel the backyard area, get rid of the awful gophers and make the backyard more of an peaceful entertainment area.

    The ramada or whatever it's called with mesh curtains for the mosquitos, having some lounge chairs and/or outdoor dining table or something like that would be AWESOME!!!

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-04-24 13:41:39


    We're close to getting all our wish list of items completed. When I suggested to my husband last year it would be good to put up solar shades for the east and west sides of the back porch, he scowled at this.

    Yesterday our handyman finally got to put these shades up for us, but he also had to modify the porch some to make it look good as these needed to hang on the horizontal and it was on a slant. He did a great job.

    Got the solar sun shades from Costco. If they go on sale in May, I'm going to ask for a price adjustment. The shades look really nice and were $60 each. They are a grayish color, which is the theme color of the inside of our home.

    They will keep our porch shady the whole day and they are easy to scroll down the shade. And, they are somewhat transparent, but not.

    It was a bit expensive to have custom made solar screens, but we did get it done at Ace Hardware. The screen guy did a fantastic job on them and our handyman installed them on all our windows facing south, east, west. The north side has the most windows but because of the porch and that it never gets direct sun, there was no need for solar screens for these windows.

    Our handyman put them up a week or so ago and it seems to cool our house down quite a bit. Yay.

    And also maybe a couple weeks ago, our handyman put up a misting system that runs east west on our porch so on 2 sides of the porch we have the scrolling solar sun shades and the other side that isn't the house has the misting system. We have 2 types of nozzles. Where our plants are, the nozzles are longer and where they are not, it's just what the system had. Got the main misting system and some parts off Amazon and the rest from Lowe's.

    We also ordered a 4 station programmable WiFi irrigation thing. That was pretty expensive, but will help us keep our plants watered when we are away or on vacation without the need for someone else to come to our home or we take our plants to someone's home.

    We will still need to do the drip irrigation for all our plants, which we plan to do this weekend, go to a sprinkler store (not Lowe's or Home Depot) and get specialized everything. That should complete our porch set-up to keep our house cooler for the summer, though the water bill will be higher somewhat, and to keep all our plants watered and hopefully survive the very hot summers we get here.

    These things, especially the misting system, the window solar screens, and the solar sun shades have been on my wish list since we moved here nearly 2 yrs ago.

    Praising God we are finally able to get all these things done.

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      wyverndust 2 cheers 2017-04-24 14:17:01

      @ligemst I didn't know Ace hardware did that. I am going to check it out for us. We don't have screens at all (1959 house). Solar screens would be awesome!

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        ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-24 16:09:39

        @wyverndust Oh yes, they do. And they are reasonably priced, at least compared to what other places charge. I don't know if all the Ace Hardwares do it, but one of the ones near my home does. He did a great job!

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    ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-05-11 13:45:07

    Sleep Is Off

    I won't do intense workouts when my sleep is off. We've been having some issues between my husband and I with temperature in the house. I like it cooler when I sleep with airflow. He likes it warmer with no airflow. It's a point of contention between us.

    Sometimes I wake up to see that the heat has been on and believe me, I think we hit a record high last week and it was HOT. My husband stays up most nights really late, especially Fri-Sat because he has no work. I always go to bed around the same time (9-10 am) unless the kids have some activity that doesn't allow me to do this.

    There is an A/C vent near our desks which I may change to try to point away from the desks. If he's not cold at the desk, then he probably won't turn on the heater. It's nuts that he would turn on the heat when the lows are hotter than what he turns the heat to. We live in Central Arizona where the average summer temperature can be 110° F.

    I like the house when I'm sleeping about 76-77° F. I don't think that's too cold. He says I have a body temperature problem. No, when it's hot outside, I don't turn on the heat.

    Anyway, I will solve this problem and it will work out for the both of us. I think buying a different A/C vent would be the thing.

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    ligemst Doing 4 cheers 2017-05-04 20:01:45

    Self Defense

    Okay, last night was a late night and even later for my 16 yr old daughter. We got home late from all their choir concerts and then she still had a lot of homework to do. Honors Physics is very challenging for her and all the other students at her school and then to need to get this homework done was even worse.

    Today I got in 1 1/2 hrs of self defense. Got to class a few minutes late. HATE being late to things that have a start time. Ugggh. I learned a lot and learned some stuff to get out of being attacked by three attackers.

    I have so much to learn. I've been taking weekly self-defense classes since August 2016. Only just touched the tip of the iceberg.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-04 19:47:38


    Wednesday I was so lacking in sleep that I canceled most things for the day that I could during the morning and afternoon and just slept. This really helped as my kids both had choir performances that evening that went late.

    We're all tired today. So all I did was stretch for Wednesday. That's it. No Metabolic Prime.

    I had only had about 3 1/2 hrs of sleep and there was no way I was going to further stress my body out with a workout.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-02 15:45:55

    Garage Warrior - Full Body Bodyweight Flows 1-7

    I forgot I purchased this a long time ago, some of Garage Warriors workouts. He's okay and it was on my flash drive which I had in the living room Sony Blu-Ray player.

    This is basically like flow yoga in shortened form. He had 7 short full body flows, so I went through all of them, which was around 14 minutes or so. No big deal.

    In my mind, I wanted to do a MMA workout, but my body wasn't having any of that. Thought about doing CIZE or some dance workout and just wasn't in the mood.

    Actually I just went searching on my flash drive which has a lot of workouts and came across Garage Warrior, and this looked good. Glad I did this because my body really needed these movements.

    Gentle and restorative for my body.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-01 19:14:50

    METABOLIC PRIME (MP) - Round 4, Phase 1, Week 2, Day 1 (R4P1W2D1)

    I skipped Workout C of the first week because of my lower back issues, but my back seems good today. So sleep deprived. Barely got 6 hrs in and that is just way too little. Feeling pukey today, but did make it a priority to get my workout in.

    Normally I would not do an intense workout on not enough sleep, but I just felt like I could today, so I did. So tired right now.

    Same workout as last Monday and since I'm sleep deprived, I decided to forego the weights, though it was my plan to do weights today. This was my in between just using bodyweight or just skipping this workout altogether.

    Could feel the tiredness of my body and this has been a super busy morning.

    Phase 1, Workout 1 :

    • Stationary Split Lunges (one leg)

    • Stationary Split Lunges (the other leg)

    • Push-Ups

    • Bent Over Rows

    • Goblet Squats

    It was my fault for going to bed so late, well past my normal 9-10 pm bedtime. Went to bed about 11 pm. Ugggh. Been having deep sleep, though, and listening to Soaking Prayer Music by Katie Souza.

    I wanted to stay up and watch some episodes of Last Man Standing with my husband. We are in the middle of Season 5 on Netflix. We love this show. Had been busy ALL DAY from the time I got up to the time I went to bed. My husband felt a little neglected, but I think he understood.

    Wasn't feeling too good yesterday. Felt like I was starting to get sick, but the power of God, having a good attitude no matter what, helped avert any sickness.

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    ligemst Doing 4 cheers 2017-04-06 00:46:17

    Even If - MercyMe

    I really love MercyMe. They have a lot of fabulous songs. Even If

    They say sometimes you win some

    Sometimes you lose some

    And right now, right now I'm losing bad

    I've stood on this stage night after night

    Reminding the broken it'll be alright

    But right now, oh right now I just can't

    It's easy to sing

    When there's nothing to bring me down

    But what will I say

    When I'm held to the flame

    Like I am right now

    I know You're able and I know You can

    Save through the fire with Your mighty hand

    But even if You don't

    My hope is You alone

    They say it only takes a little faith

    To move a mountain

    Well good thing

    A little faith is all I have, right now

    But God, when You choose

    To leave mountains unmovable

    Oh give me the strength to be able to sing

    It is well with my soul

    I know You're able and I know You can

    Save through the fire with Your mighty hand

    But even if You don't

    My hope is You alone

    I know the sorrow, and I know the hurt

    Would all go away if You'd just say the word

    But even if You don't

    My hope is You alone

    You've been faithful, You've been good

    All of my days

    Jesus, I will cling to You

    Come what may

    ‘Cause I know You're able

    I know You can

    I know You're able and I know You can

    Save through the fire with Your mighty hand

    But even if You don't

    My hope is You alone

    I know the sorrow, I know the hurt

    Would all go away if You'd just say the word

    But even if You don't

    My hope is You alone

    It is well with my soul

    It is well, it is well with my soul

    I love the lyrics to this song. When I was in the middle of my 2nd divorce with the kids' biological dad, I found out a lot of really awful financial stuff. Then, one day I got a notice from the bank they were foreclosing on my house unless I paid the money. I didn't have the money any longer because the IRS had taken a bunch of money I owed them that I didn't know until during the divorce process.

    They drained all my accounts, leaving me unable to pay any bills. Then started the really bad financial turmoil I went through for the next several years. I kept praying and had other people pray that my home would not be foreclosed on. It was not foreclosed on rather I was able to do a short sale.

    However, the home I lived in for 15 yrs, I had to give up and move. At 41, I was no longer able to live on my on and had to move in with my father with my kids. I was in such depression and despair. Why didn't God let me keep my home? Had I not been faithful tithing and giving well over and above?

    The onset of separation occurred when I was 38 and the divorce finalized when I was 40. The IRS levied all my accounts just before my 41st birthday. I prayed hoping that God would spare me and let me continue to live in our house with my kids, but that didn't happen.

    I didn't get mad at God and just thanked Him that my dad could take us in. He had moved to the area less than a year prior and he had the room in his house to let us live with him. What a humbling position to be in going from near millionaire to flat broke and a half million in debt, divorced twice, single mom to 2 young kids.

    This song, Even If, reminds me so much of what God has brought me through, how much I've learned and changed through the very hard times, harder times than I ever thought I would have to go. I've grown so much closer to God, lots of healing has occurred with me, the kids, my husband, my family.

    God has worked miraculously through the hardships I faced that were no fault of God's, rather that we live in a fallen world and bad things do happen. I learned to take responsibility for the demise of my marriage and ultimately, the demise of my financial stuff.

    God is in the process of restoring everything to MUCH better than it ever was. He had to have me cut everything and start almost afresh, and so I did. I learned to praise God through the storms, which is another song I will eventually add to this list.

    God is good not only in the good times, but through the bad times and through everything. Romans 8:28 is true. For those whom are His, everything does work out for God's good and His glory, but I had to surrender and submit.

    Even If reminds me that even if God doesn't save me from any of the bad stuff happening, I will still praise Him and still love Him. My hope is still in Him, for He is my strength. He is my refuge. He is my God.

    MercyMe - Even If (Official Lyric Video)
    © 2017 MercyMe Brand new single from MercyMe. Available everywhere now. Click the links below to download or stream! From the upcoming album "Lifer" which hi...
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    ligemst Doing 5 cheers 2017-04-14 13:47:41

    I've been reading many of your posts and I thought I might join this goal. I'm not doing weight really as my goal right now as I'm not measuring that or my body measurements. These were things I did for many, many years and even hydrostatic bodyfat measurements. I've counted calories, carbs, fat, nutrients, and a ton of things and I started when there were no apps or anything way back when, in the 90s.

    So I will share my story as some of you have. As a Chinese born in the U.S., my parents were small business owners (grocery stores and other businesses), so food was plenty. They rewarded us often with food and since they grew up very poor, they wanted to make sure all 5 of us children had enough to eat and so we did.

    I was never a FAT kid, but probably average American kid growing up in the 70s/80s. But, I was clumsy, always the last one picked at P.E., and usually because every kid had to be picked. I was your smart, nerdy, musically inclined kid that everyone loved. But, my self esteem was poor because my mom always told me I would look so much prettier if I was a little bit thinner.

    Chinese girls were always skinny (at least in the movies and those I had met). I grew up in a town where my family was one of 2 Chinese families and the other family, well, had no kids. So compared to other Chinese kids, I was FAT (I wasn't stick thin). We were told and forced always to eat everything on our plate or finish up all that was left (we ate family style around the TV).

    Though I was a National Merit and also scoring nearly perfect on the ACT, I felt really bad about myself, especially thought I was really fat. I used exercise as a means to lose weight. My parents raised me to be a perfectionist with super high standards, super high goals, super achiever. The stress of all that.

    Anything athletic or required coordination was me working 10x or more harder than everyone else to even achieve minimal looking okay. While as a child, I wore sizes 10-12. In college, as I worked out, lead a super stressful lifestyle juggling too much, exercising way too much, I wore in the 10-16 range.

    Out of college, I have kept in the 12-16 range pretty much the whole time while exercising A LOT - weightlifting, aerobics, cycling, running, swimming, yoga, kickboxing, MMA, bootcamps, so many different things. I was very disciplined and always pushed hard. I thought, no pain, no gain. I thought always be intense and the more the better. The longer the better.

    I juggled a full time engineering career with all this exercise and at 32 yrs old, gave birth to the first of 2 children. I gave birth naturally to both of them without pain meds. Exercised through my first pregnancy and actually weighed less after I gave birth than before. My 2nd pregnancy, I was into powerlifting and that brought about a life threatening heart condition for me and also that pregnancy was a high risk pregnancy due to all the exercise and strict dieting I was doing.

    Without going further, I have yoyo'd between sizes 12-16 many times. I've never taken diet pills, done surgery, bought "diet" meals or foods. I always thought determining the root cause of overeating or eating the wrong things, etc needed to be dealt with appropriately and addressed. So I have been doing that over the years.

    Almost 2 yrs ago this June, I started a more sensible approach to exercise rather than exercise like there's no tomorrow, get injured, heal and start that cycle again. The weight would begin to come off when I would exercise and watch my eating and then come on when I was injured and couldn't exercise. I repeated this cycle from about 18 yrs old to 47 yrs old, almost 30 yrs. Sickening.

    Now at 49 yrs old and no serious injuries that have kept me from exercising for the near past 2 yrs and learning that I had tons of food allergies that helped bring along diseases like diabetes and high blood pressure, borderline high cholesterol, I am taking a different approach to weight loss.

    First I have been addressing the food allergies and eliminating the allergies through NAET acupuncture treatments. I am happy to say I am now NOT allergic to most of the foods I eat. Yippee!!

    Over the years, I have learned how to cook very well and pretty healthy, along with very tasty. However, I am not strict or obsessive about anything with eating. I basically eat whatever I want whenever, but I usually eat until I am satisfied and not full or stuffed.

    I do have issues with social eating, as this is a big problem that I am working to resolve. I tend to eat at social events until I'm stuffed and I hate that. It's like I lose all control. I've told my husband to help me here, but ultimately, it comes down to me and that I need to figure out why I always pig out at social eating events.

    When I am alone, I do not eat a lot and can basically under eat. Somehow growing up in a big family, we just loved food and I see happiness and food in social events. It's deeper than this and trying to figure this one out, though it's been elusive or I just can't see it.

    In the past 3 1/2 months, I haven't exercised consistently except spend a lot of time doing restorative work, letting my body heal and doing a lot of energy work using EMDR & EFT (that counts for me). I haven't done a lot of intense workouts either. The funny thing is, my clothes still fit fine, not any tighter.

    I eat very delicious foods that usually I prepare. I just eat until I'm satisfied. I do get enough sleep most nights and working to reduce stress. High stress can cause a body to stay in fight or flight mode and not release bodyfat. Constantly eating foods that you're allergic to can also really not allow you to release bodyfat either.

    My gauges will be size and how I look in the mirror naked, how my clothes feel.

    Current Clothes Size (CCS) = Very loose 16, perfect 14
    Goal CS (GCS) = 6 or 8

    I'll probably eventually weigh myself and take body measurements, but when I feel like it.

    My starting weight near the beginning of 2016 was about 213-214 (size 16). I had gotten down to about 189 lbs (loose size 14), but when I weighed myself early last fall, I was about in the 195 lb range at a perfect size 14.

    I believe I'm still in the 195 lb range.

    I think what is keeping me from releasing the past couple months is that I've been drinking a lot of Dr. Pepper and eating a lot of sweets. And, I think the reason for that is (it's not normal for me to do that) because of a sadness, issue I'm having and have had that I cannot control that situation and find resolution, so I'm displacing that sadness with Dr. Pepper and sweets/sugary things.

    However, today I will be using EFT to see if I can address and eliminate this issue or at least begin to tear into it to reduce and eventually eliminate my need to find comfort in these things that are just empty calories.

    Also, my husband has expressed how much he enjoys my body right now the way it is. For me, it really is far too fat and unhealthy for me. He wants me to be healthy even if that means becoming slender. He has not liked "slender" women, rather his women to be "thick" and maybe subconsciously, I hang onto this weight because of that.

    I'll see if I can address some of that with EFT, too, further.

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      catmeadows Doing 3 cheers 2017-04-17 00:40:26

      @ligemst You've got a lot of history and insight into your weight journey. That will serve you well in going forward. What I usually say about my journey is that I lost a lot of years by being consumed by dieting and appearance. So many celebrations forgone because I was on a diet. So many opportunities dismissed because I thought I was too fat. It's funny to think today that I feel so light and beautiful at 200 pounds and a year short of 60, when at 25 and 125 pounds I thought I was an ogre. I do need to lose weight, but only because of health issues (GERD and knee issues). I've lost about 10 pounds since November by giving up half and half and whole milk for 2%, eating raw veggies for snacks, avoiding sugary drinks, and not bringing ice cream into the house. I also exercise 2-3x/wk, doing the 30-minute circuit at Planet Fitness. I wish I could lose it faster, but I'm happy to be able to lose weight without "going on a diet" and being able to walk up stairs without panting. Baby steps.

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      • ligemst
        ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-04-17 12:34:25

        @catmeadows Yes, a lot of history. And, you've come to about the same conclusion as me. Not going on a diet. It's amazing that if we allow ourselves to learn, that hopefully as we grow older, we become wiser and make better decisions.

        A lot has happened on this journey to lose weight, become healthier and fitter. My perspective on a lot of things changed for the better.

        Yes, I could lose it faster if I was totally strict on everything, as well as make those around me miserable (which I have), but why? Life is too short.

        Yay for being able to walk up stairs without panting. Even if you or I never get "there", if the journey the rest of the way is really great, our lives are so much the better for it.

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    ligemst Doing 7 cheers 2017-05-02 01:50:59

    Greek Meatball Pitas

    Got this recipe from Kalyn's Kitchen - Greek Meatballs. Another great meal. Made this meal in March.

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    • joycultivation
      joycultivation 1 cheers 2017-05-14 19:53:05

      @ligemst OMG I loooooove that you are doing this goal and sharing all about this yummy food!!! many of my goals have had a heavy focus on learning how to cook (try new recipes, bring a lunch to work instead of eating out, take cooking classes etc.) - reading your entries is really helpful and inspiring to me!!

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        ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-15 12:44:52

        @joycultivation Thank you. It's fun, but sometimes I am delayed or sometimes I just don't feel like taking pictures. But, it's fun to go back and to see the things I've made for my family, which I think sometimes they take for granted.

        You can learn to cook. Patience. I get a lot of my stuff off Pinterest, but often I modify recipes because I've cooked enough to know some things need modification for my family and I to like.

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          joycultivation 1 cheers 2017-05-16 01:22:17

          @ligemst I have tried Pinterest too but I feel like it is a gamble. I have been sticking to cookbooks that have been vetted. I am getting better and more confident slowly. It is taking time but luckily I have enthusiastic recipe tasters!!

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          • ligemst
            ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-16 13:03:59

            @joycultivation That's safe. For years I used cookbooks. I can also tell usually for my family what recipes will work and what won't, but that's from years of cooking. Still, sometimes I do miss the mark and there is the occasional meal I do mess up on or my family doesn't like. Very good you have enthusiastic tasters. :)

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              joycultivation 0 cheers 2017-05-16 23:27:47

              @ligemst i think i will stick to cookbooks for now since they are safe. Once i have more experience and judgment i will venture into online recipes but you really do have to know how to be discerning when trying them. I also find that many food blogs are very focused on getting traffic to show ads so the pages are more about food porn than being pragmatic and useful.

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-02 01:48:45

    Mexican Style Street Pork

    Got this from the Just A Pinch blog. My husband LOVED this pork. It was so easy. My kids, did too. We paired this with the Mexican Corn Salad, made some homemade refried beans and had us some tostadas. We had this near the end of March.

    Mexican Style Street Pork

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    ligemst Doing 3 cheers 2017-05-02 01:45:44

    Mexican Corn Salad

    I made this recipe several times. My family loves this corn salad. Got it from Isabel Eats blog. Mexican Corn Salad

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    ligemst Doing 2 cheers 2017-05-02 01:42:30

    Irish Boxty

    I made these in early March and they were so yummy. Used my crepe maker to do the potato pancakes. Got this recipe from Closet Cooking. LOVE Kevin's recipes and every time I cook one of his recipes, my family just LOVES the meal. This was no exception. Irish Boxty.

    These are very HEARTY boxties . . . super filling.

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    ligemst Doing 1 cheers 2017-05-02 01:28:09

    Carne Asada Fries

    Just some pics of what I made last week.

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